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What are some ways that greek people discipline their children?

Can somebody please tell ways that greek people discipline their children in their culture? I have been trying to find information on the internet, but can't find anything. If you know a website I can go to, could you please tell me? Or if you know any information as well.

It's for a class exercise.
I want actual answers.

It depends…There was a new study performed by the Institute of Children's Health in Greece that showed that 65% of parents admitted to have used physical abuse to their children between the ages 6-12.It's very sad listening that but I fear that the past generation of parents (parents who are now 50+) believed that children need to be physical abused cause no talking could help as much as a physical punishment would.Now days, the younger parents have become more open minded and try other methods such as rewarding the kid for it's nice behavior, try to talk to the child about his feelings and try to have a good communication with their children.Unfortunately there are still many parents who believe that children need to be physically,emotionally and psychologically abused in order to have respect and fear for the older ones.It makes me mad cause no parent should treat it's child this way, and it's their incapacity of raising healthy citizens and their ego that makes them do such things. Well I hope/think that the new generation of parents is much more aware of how to correctly "discipline" their children.There is no need for any kind of abuse.

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Know any creative discipline techniques for grade schoolers?

Let's face it, time-out doesn 't always work.
Got any fresh ideas for stubborn, smart, grade-schoolers that actually work? Aside from duck taping her mouth shut, I'm plum out of ideas (yes, I'm kidding, but it's tempting, isn't it).

OMG it is very tempting some days. I have a 9 yr old in 3rd grade and the only thing that works is taking away her privilages, no tv no playing outside (although i find this actually punishes her dad and I instead) I also make her write sentences explaining what she is in trouble for and how she can fix it. This works amazingly well with her becuz i put it up on the fridge for a few days and everytime i start getting that adorable little attitude i refer her to what she has written asking her if she wants to rewrite it. Which she never does. Time out is a joke but standing in the corner reciting her spelling words for the week or her times tables outloud works and she is studying at the same time. I also when she gets pretty much at my breaking point inform her that I NEED A TIME OUT and go in my room and forbid her from bothering me ( i get 30 mins in time out cuz im 30) it is amazing ho wmuch better you can approach a situation when you cool off like that. When i come out of my time out i ask her if she knows why i went to time out. Most of the time she does, when she doesn't i tell her the reason (example being she has been being very rude all day or talking back etc).
PS I do not help eher with the spelling on the writing becuz it is in her words. I dont care if it is spelled right as long as she knows what it says. As someone else stated I do not reward her daily for good behavior I do however have a point system. For example 50=ice cream treat. But she earns points vs allowance and she can loose them for bad behavior the only way she can earn them is by doing her daily chores.. she gets 5 pts a day for taking out the trash each chore has a point value. 1 point a day for keeping up with her room. Just remembered this and thought i would add it.

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what are your opinions on child discipline? Is the using a belt child abuse?

I and a friend had a discussion about child discipline today. i'm against it and consider it child abuse no matter the age. his view point is from age 5 or so if nothing else works then you should discipline them by using the belt on them. What do you think?
no i'm not against discipline, just using an object to hit your child

In my opinion, using violence against your child is not only cruel, but the mark of an incredibly lazy parent. It is a parents job to teach their children what to do in certain circumstances, not scare or hurt them into knowing what NOT to do.

I can never understand why someone would want their child to be scared of them, or hurt because of them.

Discipline is a MUST, but physical violence is not.

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Boot Camp Training Tips: Not a Military School for Boys

There is a fundamental rule when joining the boot camp. Shut Up and Listen. In other words do not speak unless your instructor speaks to you. Your drill instructor will do anything to test your mental discipline. Swear on you or your family and attacking your integrity. Most recruits do not understand that this is actually a trap that the drill instructor sets. Do not fall into it. Do not send your instructor to hell.

The following smart tips will help stay in a good shape when joining the boot camp and eventually pass.

Stay Focused
Remember in the boot camp it’s not all about physical. Actually it’s 10% physical and 90% mental. Do not give in to the temptation to give up. There are no options apart from holding on. Take it to the limits. There are things during boot camp training that you want to do and things that you have to do. Be disciplined and take care of what you have to do first. I know it sounds hard but that’s boot camp training.

Remember Who Makes The Rules
In your case as a new recruit, your drill instructor makes the rules. Do not try to argue with your instructor. Even if you are right you cannot and will not win. Despite what you’ve heard from others about boot camp training, never assume you know anything about it. Boot camp training is somewhat different for each individual and no matter what you think you know, you don’t.

All For One And One For All
The drill instructor will do his/her best to make all of you recruits think and act as a team. Leave your ego outside the boot camp. Sometimes you will have to sacrifice your egoism in order to help the team accomplish a task or a mission. And that’s what the army is all about. The “WE” is more important than the “I”. If you see some of your buddies struggling, motivate them and cheer them up. If you help them they will probably do the same for you when the time comes.

Do Not Volunteer
You have to be careful when volunteering for certain tasks. You may be rewarded but you will find yourself responsible not only for your performance but for the performance of others next to you. There’s no logic in the boot camp. Training is hard and some times you may think that volunteering for a task might help you. It could help, by it could damage your ego and demoralize you as well. Be careful what you wish for. It’s different if you are picked for a task. Then it would be a great idea to resist temptation to decline.

There Is A Purpose For Everything
And indeed that is true. There is a purpose for everything happening during boot camp training. Even if a task seems completely stupid or useless be sure that this is not the case. Don’t get confused. Do not try to find answers for everything that happens in the boot camp. You need to have a high rank to know the purpose for the things that happen during your training. Remember to stay focused all the time. You are not there to answer questions but to pass the boot camp training.

Maria Markella
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Juvenile Delinquency Theories

Juvenile Delinquency Theories
Through an understanding of causes of juvenile delinquency society may come to deal preventively with delinquency; certainly treatment of the offender needs to be based upon an understanding of the causal mechanisms that have produced him. In this paper we’ll describe three theories of juvenile delinquency such as Social Learning Theory, General Strain Theory and Behavioral Theory and discuss appropriate preventive programs based upon these theories.
In 1977 Albert Bandura, a Stanford University psychology professor, published Social Learning Theory, in which he postulated that human learning is a continuous reciprocal interaction of cognitive, behavioral, and environmental factors. Sometimes called observational learning, social learning theory focuses on behavior modeling, in which the child observes and then imitates the behavior of adults or other children around him or her (Wiesner, Capaldi, Patterson, 2003, p. 318).
In his research on social learning theory, Bandura studied how violence portrayed in mass media can have a tremendously negative impact on the behavior of certain types of children watching violent television shows. What he noted was that some children will observe and then imitate the behavior of the characters on the television screen. From these observations, we can conclude that juvenile delinquency is the result of imitation of aggressive actions. Bandura determined that certain types of children learn to perform violent and aggressive actions by observing and then modeling their behavior after what they have seen. He referred to this as direct learning through instantaneous matching of the observed behavior to the modeled behavior (Wiesner et al, 2003, p. 320). Therefore, social learning theory states that learning can occur through the simple process of observing and then imitating others’ activities.
Merton (1957) formulated a social strain theory of criminal involvement (Broidy, 2001, p. 10). Merton proposed that a society instills in its citizenry aspirations for upward mobility and a desire for selected goals. However, when legitimate avenues to goal attainment are blocked, anomie or strain sets in, which in turn compels the individual to violate the law in order to attain these goals. Lower-class persons are viewed by Merton as more susceptible to the ravages of anomie because they are more regularly thwarted in their efforts to participate in the economic rewards of the wider society (Broidy, 2001, p. 12).
Merton assumed in his theorizing that humans are conforming organisms who only violate the law when the disjunction between goals and means becomes so great that the individual believes he or she can no longer pursue socially sanctioned goals via legitimate channels. Society and certain social variables are, according to strain theorists, responsible for the majority of crime being committed in the world today. According to Merton, a society that emphasizes goals over the means to obtain these goals, and that restricts access to opportunities for legitimate advancement, is establishing the conditions for anomie and future criminality. Strain theorists have long argued that once a person is removed from a situation of anomie or frustration, negative behavior will recede (Henry, Tolan, Gorman-Smith, 2001, p. 173).
Agnew’s (1992) general strain theory offers a promising framework for understanding juvenile delinquency. A major type of strain, according to Agnew’s general strain theory, consists of experiencing unpleasant events or circumstances, including aversive situations at home, particularly arguments and violence (Broidy, 2001, p. 21). The theory proposes that adolescents are pressed into delinquency by negative emotional reactions that result from being situated in an aversive situation from which they cannot escape. This blockage frustrates the adolescent and may lead to desperate avoidance and/or anger-based delinquency (Broidy, 2001, p. 23).
Behavioral theory was studied by J. Watson, I. Pavlov and B.F. Skinner. It describes the outcomes of the consequences of a certain behavior on occurrence of such behavior in the future. Operant conditioning developed by Skinner is one of the learning methods according to which the likelihood of behavior is increased or decreased by the use of reinforcement or punishment. In case of positive reinforcement a certain behavior becomes stronger by the effect of experiencing some positive condition. In case of negative reinforcement a certain behavior becomes stronger by the outcome of stopping or staying away from some negative condition. In case of extinction a certain behavior is becomes weaker by the outcome of avoiding to experiencing some positive condition or stopping some negative condition.
Negative and positive reinforcements and extinction strengthen certain kinds of behavior of individuals. Punishment is a big form of operant conditioning used all over the world. When people are punished, it is to decrease that certain behavior produced by the individual. Therefore, behavioral theory refers to conditioning which leads to different behavioral pattern of juvenile offenders.
Preventive programs based on the social learning theory require placing an individual in favorable environment where he/she would be less tempted to imitate violent behavior. One of the examples of such environment is the social services of the church. The actual role of contemporary religion in delinquency prevention is not easy to evaluate. Its potential role is tremendous, but the fulfillment of that potential depends on the vitality of a religion in the lives of its professants. The formulation through religion of a standardized morality that is in conformity with the law (not all religious beliefs and practices in the United States are legal, of course, but the exceptions are in small minority faiths for the most part) establishes a system of social control norms that overlap substantive legal norms (Wiesner et al, 2003, p. 320). The social services of the church can do much–and some of them do-in providing more experimental, intensive, and therapeutic assistance to delinquents than public resources customarily are equipped to perform.
Also, community behavior can influence behavior modeling of juvenile delinquents. Community organization and planning represent tremendously significant possibilities for the development of delinquency-deterring measures.
According to the General Strain Theory, the major causes of juvenile delinquency are aversive atmosphere at home and school. The emotional atmosphere, the hostilities, and the inadequacies expressed in the parent-child relationships do greater injury to the child than do physical hurts. From a preventive point of view, then, it seems clear that the greatest hope for discouraging delinquency must lie in efforts to improve the quality and harmony of the family system.
Preventive programs based on the General Strain Theory refer to effective family social work: a field designed to strengthen family life through assisting individuals and family units and, so far as possible, to improve the community circumstances essential to wholesome family living. Private agencies, and governmental services (chiefly departments of public welfare) contribute to this work; many of them today, especially in moderate-sized cities, merge child-welfare services with their family case work for more completely integrated assistance (Asetline, Gore, Gordon, 2001, p. 257).
Family counseling, which is carried on in large part by the old established social agencies but which is also coming to be practiced increasingly by individual practitioners and clinics, offers much promise and some dangers. In an area where the divorce rates alone are a sufficient indication of the widespread need for help, trained and specialized skills focused specifically on the medical, emotional, and broader psychological requirements of the family can help to resolve difficulties before they become too serious (Asetline, Gore, Gordon, 2001, p. 258). Provisions should be available in the community for the individual who feels the need for advice about his family relationships. Such facilities should be competent of course. Traditionally much of this advisory function, when performed at all (of course, many persons needing help have refrained from seeking it either out of pride or a lack of available and known resources), has been done informally by family physicians, attorneys, or friends. It hardly need be said that none of these roles, taken by itself, gives any assurance of qualification to deal with the often subtle, profound, and technical problems involved in family pathology. Today, though specialized skills for this work are being developed and counseling bureaus are being established.
One of the commonest characteristics observed among delinquent children is the dislike of school and teachers. It would seem that any real solution to this problem lies not in penalty classes or special schools with long hours-or even incarceration but in such preventive measures as vigorously attempting to adapt the educational process to the needs and interests of children. The docile rote learner-so dear to the heart of the educator-and the non-aggressive but apathetic conformist, as well as the resistant problem child, could all profit by a vitalized education. If classroom organization, program of study, and teaching methods are planned to meet the interests and needs of children and adolescents at their level of development, with rich and varied opportunities for the expression of diverse abilities and sufficient elasticity to allow the individual some freedom in adaptation, there would be far less aversion and passive indifference to school (Houchins, Guin, Schroeder, 2001, p. 110). Again it should be noted that flexible programs and good teaching are largely a matter of adequate budgets and careful selection.
Ideally every school system should have attached to it or continuously available to it the facilities of a psychiatric clinic or study home to which cases of juvenile delinquency might be referred for observation and assistance. If teachers can be trained sufficiently and selected as personalities sensitive to the needs of childhood, they should be able to refer a large proportion of unadjusted children for clinical assistance early and thus prevent the development of serious conduct problems and delinquency (Houchins et al, 2001, p. 108).
For most instances of children with psychological or conduct problems, the school must continue to provide formal education to meet their particular needs as well as possible. Thus arises a perennial problem in pedagogical and administrative technique: Should “problem children” be segregated in separate classes and separate schools where groups of unadjusted and delinquent boys are massed together, or should they be brought as much as possible into contact with normal children in the regular schools? According to General Strain Theory, in cases where the problems of personality are serious enough and classroom environment becomes the source of frustration for children, children should be treated for their special requirements in groups established according to their needs. If these individuals are to be taught separately they need programs and teachers that are adapted to their peculiar needs.
According to the Behavioral Theory, juvenile delinquency preventive programs should be based on positive and negative reinforcements. Some of the examples of preventive programs with the use of negative reinforcements are confinement, boot camps and waiver. Although not as restrictive as confinement in a secure facility, boot camps are known for their rigid militaristic style. Juvenile participants are commonly organized into platoons and required to wear uniforms and to participate in daily regimens of drill exercises and physical training. Daily routines may extend from 5:30 or 6:00 A.M. to lights out at 9:00 or 10:00 P.M (Fagan, Zimring, 2001, p. 88). This program is focused upon changing attitudes and behavior through discipline.
Another popular program of achieving delinquency prevention or reduction has been waiver of juvenile offenders to adult court. By waiving juveniles to adult court, there is an increased chance that they will come into contact with adult felony offenders and, consequently, after this contact the juvenile should learn to be better.
Unlike boot camps and waiver, mentor programs involve mostly positive reinforcements in changing juvenile behavior. Most programs involve volunteer staff who see themselves as giving something to or sharing something with the youths who are being mentored (Colvin, Cullen, Vander Ven, 2002, p. 20) Mentor programs are less costly than other approaches to delinquency prevention because often the mentors are volunteers who may or may not receive reimbursement for out-of-pocket expenses related to mentoring activities. As a juvenile justice strategy, mentoring is an opportunity to provide support where it is missing and to supplement it when it is weak.
In conclusion, the contributing factors that make a child delinquent are numerous and varied; they are often complexly interwoven in a single case. One single theory cannot explain the complex of conditions and circumstances producing delinquency. Similarly, application of one single preventive program will not significantly reduce juvenile delinquency. Therefore, juvenile delinquency preventive programs should be based upon several theoretical approaches and developed for every particular case of juvenile delinquency.
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60% of Americans Aspire to be Entrepreneurs. Is Your Kid One of Them?

Inspired by the huge successes of young entrepreneurs, many Americans are now aspiring to run their own business empire. What’s more, the need to nurture these skills from an early age has compelled parents to strongly encourage entrepreneurship development amongst their children. Thus, they become more attuned to knowledge and information on how to nurture these skills, and even implement daily activities which aim to develop these skills from pre-school onwards.

Indeed, the emphasis on entrepreneurship has gained ground in recent years due to massive layoffs and restructuring in corporate America. The lucrative profits made by business owners as compared to the absence of job security in employment, has prompted many to become self-employed.

What is encouraging though is that studies have shown that entrepreneurship can be learned and developed. It is not an in-born gift as many believe. Traits such as creative thinking, discipline, independence, confidence, strong communication skills, the ability to take risks, motivation and persistence can all be learnt and acquired over time.

However, in order to give our children a head start, these traits need to be developed from a young age. A study conducted by a former director of the Center of Entrepreneurial Leadership has discovered that entrepreneurial traits are already demonstrated by one in four kids while still at kindergarten. The down side to this is that if these skills are not developed during grade school, only 3% of high school graduates will utilize these abilities.

These findings reinforce the fact that as children don’t develop these skills in school, parents play a vital role in facilitating the development of these abilities. First, they need to teach their children the value of money. Apart from that, parents could involve their children in the process of making adult decisions. This will help them develop their maturity and decision-making skills. Another initiative parents could take is to pay their children to perform chores around the house, so that they are able to make the connection between working and earning money.

As for older kids, parents function as the mentor to their kids’ business ideas, providing positive input for idea expansion and improvement. In addition, parents are also in a position to help their kids develop their first business plan, and also to put their plan into action. Children could start with any small business ideas, a newspaper delivery business, dog-walking or even tutoring. In addition, parents need to constantly use positive reinforcements on their kids in order to boost self-esteem and confidence.

Last but not least, to encourage teamwork and exchange of ideas with their peers, kids should also be enrolled in entrepreneurial programs such as the Kids and Business seminars. These programs will help to infuse new insights, incorporate leadership skills and formally impart business skills to kids. Most importantly, these programs are essential to cover areas where parents are not equipped to teach. Ultimately, these kids will be ready with a full set of entrepreneurial skills that they can use to jumpstart their business.

Susanna Strandberg
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MLM Training: Techniques for Turning Prospects from Cold to Hot

In this article I’m going to explain how to follow-up or follow through after you have invited your MLM prospect to look at either your network marketing business or your product. This is the final step of the Inviting Formula, the formula I successfully use to get prospects to take a look at my MLM Business.

The Inviting Formula is:
Greet
Qualify
Invite
Handle any Questions/Objections
Close to Action
Follow-up or Follow-through

The purpose of the Follow-Up is to re-contact your prospect and move him/her towards what they’ve stated they need, want or don’t want and it pertains to your network marketing business or product.

The purpose of the Follow-Through is when your prospect indicates readiness to act (join, enroll, sign-up in your MLM business) then you follow-through by delivering all they need to get what they’ve stated they need, want or don’t want. This can start with completing simple distributor agreements, getting products, signing them up for services and then moving on to provide them with MLM training.

Your ability to be effective at Follow-up, and get people signed up in your network marketing organization, depends on the previous step of the Inviting Formula – Close to Action. When you close your prospect to action, they agree to do some things, and you agree to do some things. One of which was to re-contact them at a scheduled time.

Do that.

That’s follow up.

You may need to follow-up or re-contact your prospect several times to get them to the stage where you follow-through with them.

I’m not going to pretend this is fun. It most certainly is not. But, it is a requirement to your success in network marketing.

I’ve identified three main areas about follow-up that need to be understood in order to be successful at it…and therefore successful in network marketing.

1. Close to action well, and you’re follow-ups will work out a lot better.

2. Do…follow-up. Most don’t, that’s why most don’t succeed.

3. It’s not you. I know that doesn’t make an ounce of sense – but read on and it will.

So let’s just picture a typical MLM prospecting scenario.

Mr. MLM Business Prospect has this need/want. For this discussion I’m going to say he needs money to pay down his debts and get some “breathing room.” I could interchange time or anything else here, but for this discussion I’m going to use money.

So Mr. MLM Business Prospect is very, very worried about his credit card bills. He’s gotten himself in over his head. There was a time when he didn’t have credit card bills. He could pay off the credit card the same month the charges came in. Then he charged something that required two or three months to pay it off. He used a little bit of discipline and reduced his expenses in other areas and with pride he sent in the payment and paid it all off.

And at some point he sunk too deep and wasn’t able to pay it off in a month or two. He’s been in debt for years. But Mr. MLM Business Prospect has pride. He is completely convinced he will pay it off. So convinced he starts erecting “walls of determination.”

“I will not spend any money on anything I don’t need!”

“Alright family, we need to tighten down on spending money.”

“We can’t afford that.”

“Honey, can we go to the movies tonight?” “GOOD GRIEF – can’t you see WE CAN’T SPEND ANY MORE MONEY!”

A post card hits his mailbox about making money from home. He calls and leaves a message. “I’m just curious…” he states on your message machine. You call him back. You do a good greeting and qualify. He doesn’t express all the above – he’s got pride. He wraps it all up in a tiny statement like – “Just looking to make some extra cash.”

The whole time you’re talking he’s got one thing on his mind…”What’s this going to cost me?” If it costs anything he’s going to put that wall of determination between you and him. This “what does it cost” question doesn’t come up because you’re moving right through the Inviting Formula. You conclude that he does in fact qualify as a prospect for your MLM business and you invite him to look at an online movie. He agrees and you schedule a time to follow-up.

You call at the designated time – he doesn’t answer the phone and doesn’t return your phone call. You think it’s you. You think he’s turning you down. You think you need to go back to the drawing board because “this thing (your MLM business) isn’t working.”

Networker – Mr. MLM Business Prospect needs your help. He’s trapped himself behind his “WALL of determination!” You need to help him get around, under, through, over this wall…which requires you to continually follow-up with him. Don’t sit around looking at YOUR issues and dreaming up all kinds of stuff – it’s not you. Call the man back, call him again, call him again and keep calling till you reach him – hold his hand and walk him through HIS wall.

That’s what follow-up is all about. It’s definitely not the best part about your network marketing business, but it’s tje honorable thing to always do.

When thinking about…or dreading…”Doing the numbers,” remember that every “number” is a human being. Help that human being and then follow-up is a lot easier, and you’ll be amazed at how your MLM business will continue to grow.

Tim Sales
http://www.articlesbase.com/home-business-articles/mlm-training-techniques-for-turning-prospects-from-cold-to-hot-59561.html

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