Complete with relevant Bible verses, explanations, and exercises, this guide builds on the enormously popular 1-2-3 Magic discipline system by addressing the needs of a Christian parent. Focused on the three main tasks of controlling obnoxious behavior, encouraging good behavior, and strengthening the parent-child relationship, this program is simple, effective, and can be implemented immediately. Addressing everything from homework and chores to more serious tantrums and fighting, this guide teaches parents to take charge–yet refrain from any physical discipline or yelling–leading to happier parents, better behaved children, and a more peaceful home environment.

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Isn’t that presuming that the only way to properly discipline children is with force, and anyone who doesn’t do that, doesn’t know how to keep children in line?

FYI: I have not given any TUs or TDs to any answer on this question.
except Jodie – TU

I guess its just that people can thumb other people down because of different opinions, it is not really important. People who thumb down other people just because they have adifferent opinions are childish and silly ( except for those who say bad things then thats a complete different thing)

I certainly do not support violence or abuse against children. But I think it is hard to distinguise between disciplinary smacking and real violence , it is up to the parents’ concience to carry this action out. I was spanked when I was about 8,9 by my mother. I was a bit " out of control " then , at the time, i really disliked it . But now thinking back my mother did it out of her love for me, and there were times when disciplining me, she was actually tearing. I would have become a spoilt, irresponsible person had she not done that.

We are using a time out bean bag and making him sit for about a minute or until he says he’s sorry for hitting, saying no no phrases, climbing, so on and so on. I’m just curious what other parents did/do or don’t do
No thumbs down from me. Everyone’s opinion is welcomed.

I hope you are prepared for a heated topic! To spank or not to spank is a very hot topic among parents! Personally, I have never and will never lay a hand on my child. She is three years old and I have never spanked or slapped her. I refuse to physically harm/hurt my child. With that said…

When she is doing something she is not supposed to, we try to remove her from the situation. Let’s say she is trying to climb on the table, I tell her that she is not allowed to be on the table. If she doesn’t listen, I tell her once more than ask her to come somewhere with me… whether it be to the laundry room, kitchen, etc.

We use time-outs when that doesn’t work. We sit her in the chair for 2-3 minutes. When she tries to get up, I pick her up and place her back in the chair WITHOUT saying a word. Sometimes, I’ll do this 3 or 4 times before she stops trying to get up. After the 2-3 minutes or sooner if I feel that she is calmed down and ready to listen and apologize, I tell her what she did wrong, why I do not want her to do that, and ask her for a hug and a sorry.

Don’t forget to thank her when she does listen. Positive praise is so important.

In which ways were you disciplined as a child?

What kinds of things were you disciplined for?

How were you affected by it?

How will you / or do you discipline ?

What other ways are their to keep children from misbehaving?

I was brought up in such a way that freedom was illicit for me. My mother usually shouted whenever I committed a mistake, or if I did something wrong. She also used to ban my favorite pass time joys, such as the computer and my phone. She also used to smack a lot. But all that has stopped (except the shouting). I think in a way, my mother brought me up correctly. If she hadn’t stopped me from making mistakes she did, I would be in great grief today.

I think a child should be brought up with affection and proper care. You should not give them too much freedom. Let them realize that good things come to those who wait. I also believe that a child should not be continuously smacked for his mistakes. Maybe shout at them or ban something that is special to them. But never smack. Smacking can lead to the child distancing away from his parents.

Hi, Im just wondering if any experienced parents have been successful with correcting their 12 month olds behavior. My child is throwing tantrums, whining, crying and acting like a monster if she doesnt get what she wants. I dont believe in spanking and dont spank her ever…but I dont know other techniques that work at correcting this kind of behaviour before it gets out of control and gets worse. I was raised being spanked and my parents think they are Gods authority when it comes to parenting since they never had any problems with us. The look on their faces when my child acts up is very upsetting to me. I wish they would support me in how I choose to raise her and give me "helpful" advice…but thats a different issue. Im choosing to take a different route with my children and would like to find effective ways at encouraging good behaviour. Any ideas??

1 yr is very young for most discipline techniques. She does not really have an understanding of right and wrong and no words to express herself(so she uses tantrums, crying, etc).

If she is throwing a fit ignore it(o in the kitchen and pretend to cook, tidy up, etc). She does it for a reason, and the reason is to get a response from you. She know that if she cries, whines, etc than mommy will come over to her and give her attention. When she is doing something you do not allow, tell her "No" in a firm voice and move her from what it is or take it away. If she proceeds with a tantrum ignore it. Crying never killed a child, and she will soon learn that crying b/c mommy took something away, or moved her somewhere else gets her nothing. It is hard to listen to your child cry, but she is not hurt, only mad that she didn’t get something. When the crying and tantrum stops then go over to her and play, cuddle, etc., but you want her to know that a tantrum is not going to get her anything. You can also begin playing with toys yourself while she is having the tantrum. Ignore her and pretend to have fun with block, invite her over to play when she is done crying, or most likely she will stop tantruming and join you herself.

I have done this technique many times. I am not a mom(but rather a nanny), and have used this effectively with many children over the years. As a nanny I have never spanked a child and do not believe in spanking(obviously), and have found there are many techniques that correct behavior from 1 yr olds all the way through tweens. There is no need to spank a child to get them to behave, you just need to learn other techniques to deal with behavior.

Always remember to tailor it to you child’s needs and response. Some children will turn a tantrum into hysterical crying and genuine upsetment(and you don’t want that). If that happens don’t pick her up(you still do not want to reward the behavior). Comfort her with soothing words and redirection.

Find what works best with your child and go with that. You can begin simple time outs at around 18 months, but until then redirection, ignoring, etc are your best option.