I’m raising some little kids right now they’re a bit spoiled..then again I’m young too.

Well there’s no real hard and fast rules. I would say the most important thing is to be consistant. If you don’t let them do something one time, don’t let them do it ever! Also, don’t make empty threats. Give them one or two warnings depending on their ages and follow through with a punishment. Be fair, and make sure they know the rules and what’s expected of them. Try to be calm when you deal with wrong behaviour, and always tell them what you do want them to do, not just what you don’t want. Give them lots of praise and encouragement when you see them doing the right thing, and never give in to tears or tantrums! Punishments are really up to you, some people use time-outs, grounding, loss of privelages, etc. Just make sure the punishment fits the crime, and that the kids now what the consequences will be if they misbehave. I won’t advise you for or against spanking, that’s a very personal decision for parents (I’m not sure if they’re your children, or you’re looking after someone else’s?), that is your own judgement call. Good luck, I hope that helps!

My 2 boys are getting picked on my 8 year old stands up for his self but my 10 year old wont….My boyfreind told me to put them in Martial Arts but i really dont know if this will be the right way…Any advise….

The right school will definitely teach discipline and help break that ice on being afraid to stand up for them selves.

The RIGHT school though will not make aggressive attackers out of them though. They must know when it is o.k. and not o.k. to defend themselves. A time and place for everything.

So yes Martial arts would highly help them with discipline and the techniques will be useful against others their age but not so well against adults so you know until they are older. MOST have their kids join for discipline.

most schools teach you to fight so you do not have to fight and hopefully that is what you can find, one that gives you the discipline to give them the not only support but the self confidence you say the 10 year old is lacking.

It is the same reason I joined MA when i was almost 6 because of similar problems, now 31 years later i am a teacher and now help other kids as I was once.

Their are also other ways to if you do not like the martial arts schools in your area, their is always boxing, wrestling, the most important thing is make sure you feel safe with your kids there and you can tell by sitting in and watching a class or so and see how the other kids are and the teacher.

good luck

Ironically, in a world filled with terrorism, assault, rape, and murder, I have to write an article giving people reasons why they should be learning self-defense or the Kubotan personal-protection weapon. But then, if I didn’t, who would?

I hear questions concerning which techniques are best and what weapon should I be training with if I’m concerned about XYZ? If you have questions like these, perhaps this article can help.

Since this article focuses on the self-defense weapon most commonly known as the Kubotan, my answers will be along those line. So, just in case you’ve ever asked questions like…

“Which self-defense weapon is best for the beginner or untrained person?”

“Why should I learn to use the Kubotan self-defense keychain?” Or…

“What’s so special about the Kubotan?”

Here are some of the answers I came up with off the top of my head:

1. It’s one of the easiest weapons to learn and use.

If you’re concerned about self-protection, you don’t have the luxery of time on your side. Where a student seeking to learn a martial art for confidence-building, discipline, or for purely asthetic reasons can take all the time he or she needs, you need to find techniques and, in this case, weapons that can be picked up and mastered in the quickest time possible.

2. Short of picking up a rock or a stick, it’s one of the cheapest weapons to buy or make.

Cost is another factor for many people. Of course, if you can afford it and they’re legal where you live, nothing beats a handgun for making sure you have the advantage in a self-defense situation, regardless of what anybody says. But, for many, expense, age, and restrictive laws make this a problem. So, the easiest thing to do is find something that will work for you without a lot of expense in time, money, or effort.

3. It instantly gives a smaller defender a serious advantage over a larger, stronger assailant.

Nothing brings a larger assailant to his knees (not to mention tears) like a well-placed piece of metal. When used properly agains the many weak points and sensitive areas of the human body, the Kubotan is right up there as a formidable weapon, especially for the smaller defender.

4. It’s easily concealable, allowing it seemingly come out of “nowhere” to surprise and confuse the attacker.

You don’t always want to be obvious in a self-defense situation. It makes it too easy for the attacker to prevent you from carrying out your way-cool move. The small, easily-concealable Kubotan can slip into spaces and damage areas of the assailant’s body that he can’t see or protect until it’s too late.

5. It’s legal to carry in most areas.

From a purely practical standpoint, legality should be the last thing you’re worried about when it comes to defending yourself. After all, is the criminal acting in a legal and responsible way when he or she attacks you? But… If this is a concern, the generally acceptable nature of the Kubotan makes it a great choice as a personal protection weapon.

6. If it’s not legal where you live, it’s easily substituted by a wide array of every day items that are the same shape and/or size.

Just because the law says that you can own, carry, or use a certain type of weapon, doesn’t mean that you can find plenty of legal items in everyday use that make perfect substitutes. Learn to think outside the box and don’t let something as simple as a “prohibited weapon list” prevent you from learning a valuable skill.

7. It would be stupid not to.

Of course, this also means that not learning to defend yourself in general is, not only stupid, also not very responsible as an adult who should be able to handle their own problems and take care of themselves in this big, bad world.

In a self-defense situation, assailants typically brandish a weapon, not to use it, but to gain an advantage by merely showing it. Having even a simple weapon, like the Kubotan, evens the odds and can even tip them in your favor.

So, the next time you’re wondering whether or not you should consider adding the simple-looking, yet amazingly powerful Kubotan self-defense keychain to your self-defense arsenal…

…the answer is a resounding, “Yes!”

Jeffrey Miller
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