ISBN-10: 1890871877 ISBN-13: 9781890871871. Edition: 10.
Archive for November, 2009
The Catechist’s Manual: Or a Systematic Course of Instruction for Children, in the Doctrine, Discipline, Order, and Worship of the Protestant Episcopal Church (1853)
No wonder Smart Love has gotten media attention galore and was even recommended by Ann Landers….
Most parents interpret discipline as punishment or implementing sanctions. Not true. The very best discipline is education. Be your child’s coach. Consult Jim Fey’s CDs.
My cat is about 6 mos. She has a food allergy. She is allergic to store brand cat food. I feed her the lamb food. She eats it but would much rather have the store bought cat food I feed my older cat. What happens when she gets store cat food her face and paws swell up. She will spend every minute of the day trying to find food to eat. She climbs on top of my stove, cabinets, counters, tables, she’ll even put her paw down the garbage disposal. She’ll tip over the garbage can. I tried the water bottle. I tried crating her when she is bad. I tried scruffing her. Nothing has worked! Please help.
I thought about putting both cats on the same diet. It would be expensive but probably save me some grief. I feed the cats separately now. I’ll see if my older cat will eat the lamb. Thanks.
You can put double sided tape down on your counters and stove or get those runner mats with the little prongs sticking up to keep her off. As for the trash can, you’ll just have to put that in a closet or cabinet or get a heavier stainless steel one with a lid. You’ll probably have to feed your older cat in another room or remove this cat while the older one eats. Scruffing, yelling, spraying water only causes a stressful environment for your cat and will do more harm than good. Try hiding treats around the house for her to hunt. It will keep her busy looking for appropriate snacks.
I do not mean child abuse, but physical contact, such as a light smack or hit to a child that would not cause bruising, but only minor and temporary pain. I do not believe in child abuse, i am simply curious to find out the beliefs of the public on physical discipline when raising a child. Please don’t take this question as something else.
This is a very polarizing question. People in both camps feel very strongly. I happen to be in the no physical punishment under any circumstances camp. I could make my case to you and you could read the opinions of others, but why not look at what the experts say? If you’ve read any childcare articles or books, you’ve probably discovered that opinions vary widely on topics like sleep, feeding, scheduling, etc. But childcare experts and pediatricians pretty much universally agree that physical punishment is wrong.
Okay, I will elaborate on my opinion. I think physical punishment is short-sighted, lazy parenting. Disciplining a child is not something done reactively, when the child has done something wrong. Disciplining a child involves teaching, over time and repeatedly (and repeatedly, and repeatedly) what is acceptable and what is not. Then, following that up with age-appropriate consequences for unacceptable behavior. If you wait until the child has done something wrong to step in and discipline, then you’ve not done your job as a parent. A child needs to know what the boundaries are, and to achieve that, you need to be an active, present parent. I think people who use physical punishment are too lazy to invest the time it takes to really nurture and teach their child right from wrong.
I have a two-year old who is a high-energy, curious, willful little girl, but she is wonderful, well behaved and a joy to be around and I have never, ever, EVER hit her, nor could I ever imagine doing so. And no, I didn’t "luck out" with an "easy" child. She can be very challenging at times, but parenting is an ongoing process and you have to work very hard to instill lessons, but in the long run, active parenting, in my opinion, will result in a better parent-child relationship, will not damage the child’s emotional core and will better equip the child to make informed decisions about their actions – they should act out of what they think is right or wrong rather than out of fear of retribution.
I have a 5 year old kid with ADD and even though the teachers are encouraging me to take him to the specialist to get put on lethargic drugs, my friend is telling me that drugs aren’t necessary and firm discipline is all thats required to bring his attention back along with an improvement in his behavior.
If you have dealt with kids with ADD please give me some advice, will it be a ruler across the hands? I don’t want to abuse him, I just want him to pay attention and behave better in school.
A ruler across the hands is nothing… Honestly, I think people nowadays are way too soft! It’s a kid, just don’t beat him, but you can definitely give him a good spanking every now and then.
What my mother always did, and it worked, is to allow other adults to discipline your children. If I misbehaved, my mother would let other people discipline me. This definitely taught me to have respect for all my elders, and I learned that I have to listen to all adults, not just my mother.
You can also do time-outs, not rewarding him, punishing him, etc.
You have to also be careful with the ADD. I don’t know your child’s situation, but there are many kids who are diagnosed with ADD when they do not actually have it. Make sure a true professional handles your child’s case, don’t let a teacher diagnose the situation.
