Are there any parents on here who do not use time out or hitting (“spanking”) as forms or discipline on their toddlers? How do you reprimand your toddlers and prevent them from destroying property or hurting themselves?
Note, I do not use time-out and I do not hit my 23 month old but I use other methods to control his behaviour. Wondering if there are any other like-minded parents out there?
Thanks.
edit: No, I do not think time-outs are wrong. I do not believe in spanking but I don’t belive time-outs have any adverse effects on children and most parents use time-outs because they are effective for their children.
It just isn’t something that is right for me or the type of discipline that I wish to use.
#1 by Due August 26th w/ #2 on March 26th, 2011
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I use time outs I know you didn’t ask but the way you worded it makes it sound like you think time outs are wrong. My daughter has not been adversly effected, never screams, just sits and takes her punishment then goes on her merry way. We don’t have any discipline issues with her. In fact we rarely have to even give her a time out. Time outs are perfectly safe and fine for children.
ADD: OK. I was just confused and hoping you didn’t feel that way.
Sorry.
#2 by Ethel on March 26th, 2011
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We use time out and loss of privileges for our 2 year old, it kind of depends on the situation but I have taken things away, removed him from an activity he was participating in (and wanted to stick with), or simply walked away from him when his behavior was out of control. For hurting others I remove him and comfort the victim with lavish praise, as for destroying property – well it gets put away or removed or he looses it.
#3 by LiquidIce on March 26th, 2011
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Guilt works the best. Make them soo guilty they will come say sorry to you and hug you. Or a regretful feeling. Those work great.
Or the usual disappointed feeling, even you would remember that when you were a kid, from bad grades or something. But idk if that works as well as the guilt. Also, you are the mother. The kids are born with a physiological thing with the mother. And you can make them feel guilty easily.
and you know how it goes, to not regret anything before you die. Maybe if they wrecked your car at 5 they will pay you back at 32.
#4 by Rebecca on March 26th, 2011
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i just correct my childs behavior for example if he hits the cat i tell him we dont hit we pet then i will show him and then when he starts petting the cat i give him praise and i just keep at things like this, sometimes it can get frustrating but it works for us, and came most natural, i dont believe in time outs for them at this age because they are too little to really have that as an effective punishment and i just cant imagine hitting a child for something he/she doesnt know is wrong or hasnt been taught
#5 by IMspazztard on March 26th, 2011
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Short of taking things when they cut up, there’s really not much else you can do other than telling them not to do something. As someone who deals with children every day, all day, i assure you, you WILL change your mind about the spanking and time outs when you encounter some crazy behavior that talking about does nothing to change. Some parents just need to put up with stuff until they’re fed up with it. By the way, hitting and spanking are two different things. Hitting implies that you are doing it without a particular reason; as a parent, that’s not how you take care of things. Spanking implies “you did something wrong, i’ve asked you to stop, you didn’t stop, now you get a punishment”. Completely different things.