I do, but I want to stop because discipline is what a child needs in life. Sometimes I worry that she will hate me and grow up to not like me.
Discipline or enforcing a punishment is the hardest part of raising a child, it’s not fun, but needs to be done. My husband is a bit of a sucker, but he taught me something – You just need to switch modes, get rid of any emotion, and go in there and do what you need to do. Afterwords, you can bring your emotion back and share a good talk with your child.
#1 by pink_tinkerbell7 on August 11th, 2009
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OMG YES!…I don’t know why though….everytime she does something wrong I tell her and even though I’m not hitting her, just screaming at her makes me feel really terrible…It makes me go and hug her and apologize and tell her nicely that she wasnt supposed to do that
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#2 by MohawkPrincess on August 11th, 2009
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My parents disciplined me as needed. I was spanked, or put in a corner, or if I talked back I’d get a mouthful of soap.
They never abused me or beat me, a light pat on the butt won’t kill you, and it taught me what I was doing was wrong.
I’m not a sociopath, nor do I despise my parents now. I agree completely with discipline. Your daughter will thank you later in life. You see some children who don’t have any limits, and they are the ones that grow up to be nasty, rotten adults. It hurts her now, but doesn’t it hurt you more? She’ll realize that.
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#3 by 4Xthe fun on August 11th, 2009
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she will hate you…..but only til she becomes a parent herself and sees you were right!!! i think we all feel guilty about disciplining our children….but as much as we’d like to be, we can’t be their best friend. we have a responsibility to teach them right from wrong and that involves discipline.
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#4 by dalet s on August 11th, 2009
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only when they don’t get it , they are supposed to be learning to function as adults. Every time they don’t understand I get a horrible image of them living in a run down building with filthy clothes all over the floor and roaches and rats running all over the place. This gives me the incentive to talk with my children. Now if I could hear them say ( that’s not going to happen to me , I would be real happy.
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#5 by anobodyfromouterspace on August 11th, 2009
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no because if they deserve the punishment, you are helping them
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#6 by Nimmy F on August 11th, 2009
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Yes…i really do feel bad after shouting at her everytime…and i promise her "i’ll not shout next time (my baby is only 11 mnths
..but still i feel bad myself at times and i tell sorry
i am afraid how will i teach her discipline once she grows old enough…bcoz if i just shout and get angry,she’ll care the least about my words..i know thats not the right way of doing…i know i should act "wise"…but alaas,it doesn’t happen when the time or situation comes..i hope to be a better mom..bcoz i dn’t want my baby to think of me a a "devil"…if i do so,she’ll have hatred for me all life until she herself becomes a mom (which is the case with me and my mom)…and that she’ll know that i did all for her good only..
It is not always what u say that makes the difference,but HOW you say that makes the difference….
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#7 by Cruz's momma <3 on August 11th, 2009
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My son is so young (16 months) that I do feel bad telling him no all the time…I guess it’s just part of being a parent. When he is being naughty (mischievous) I just redirect him to something he can have…I try not to overreact because he is so young and i know there are a few more years of curiosity on the way!
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#8 by Jimmy S on August 11th, 2009
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yes that is normal, ti is called hard love.
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#9 by CF_ on August 11th, 2009
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no
because I see a lot of spoilt brats who have NO disapline so I know what I am doing is because I love her.
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#10 by blk gurl 15 is bak on August 11th, 2009
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yea sumtimes i do
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#11 by Ginger on August 11th, 2009
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Yes, I do.
It a normal reaction to good parenting.
No one likes to punish, but it’s our job to love, teach
and discipline.
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#12 by Ghiselle D on August 11th, 2009
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Why would you feel guilty about disciplining your child? If you’re constantl punishing your child with harsh sentences that don’t teach a lesson, doing more harm than good, you should feel guilty – but discipline should be fair, within limits (limits providing limits), guaranteeing the child’s safety and good for a child. It’s what children need. It’s a cold world out there and children need to know what is permissable and what is not.
Without discipline a child will grow up believing they’re not properly loved. Only those parents who don’t care about their child permit their child to do anything (behave poorly, stay out all night, have no physical nor personal boundaries). There is no love in permitting and allowing anything and all kind of behavior.
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#13 by T J on August 11th, 2009
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No!
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#14 by Joan R on August 11th, 2009
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I only did if I had punished them all when really only one or two of them had really asked for it.
However I didn’t dwell on the matter and didn’t let them either as it was all part of them learning that life sometimes isn’t fair and nobody – not even parents! – are perfect *all* of the time.
They certainly didn’t grow up to hate me – quite the reverse.
If I had *not* have disciplined them when necessary then I really would have felt guilty if they had not turned out as well as they have,
I also discipline my grandsons when they are here if needed – but like with my boys they also have lots and lots of love here so it is all in proportion to their general needs.
Nobody *likes* having to discipline their children – but it needs to be done for the child’s own long-term good and their being able to learn *self*-discipline along the way to adulthood through the proper guidance.
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#15 by mgnavadomskis on August 11th, 2009
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I don’t think that guilty is exactly the right word. It’s something more like feeling bad watching them suffer the natural consequence of their action so that they can learn. It’s hard watching someone you love realizing difficult truths.
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#16 by berrel on August 11th, 2009
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Not at all. My son is only 15-mths old, so I know that positive discipline is crucial part of his development.
Let go of the guilt and do what you know is best for your child.
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#17 by crybaby5562 on August 11th, 2009
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NO! YOU MUST SIT THE CHILD DOWN AND EXPLAIN TO THEM WHY YOU ARE GIVING THEM DISCIPLINE. NEVER FEEL THAT THEY WILL HATE YOU BECAUSE IIN THE LONG RUN THEY WILL THINK BACK AND REMEMBER WHAT YOU SAID AND DID.
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#18 by Madeline on August 11th, 2009
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No, I don’t because it will help them in the future. You don’t want them growing up without any rules or they will walk all over you.
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#19 by mummyyusuf on August 11th, 2009
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YES YOU DO FEEL GUILTY HOWEVER THERE IS A WAY AROUND IT.
I get very upset with my two. They do things and press my hypernation buttons all the time.
I just dont speak to them for about 20 minutes and tell them why I wasnt talking to them.
Just dont speak to the child and ignore him/her for a bit.
Speak to him/her afterwards.
They just want to gain your attention.
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#20 by nakita on August 11th, 2009
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why do you want to stop disciplining her? kids need love patients AND rules, boundries and limitations. Do you want to be a mother to an inmate who thinks she’ll get away with muder if she wants when she gets older? thought so
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#21 by olschoolmom on August 11th, 2009
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Discipline or enforcing a punishment is the hardest part of raising a child, it’s not fun, but needs to be done. My husband is a bit of a sucker, but he taught me something – You just need to switch modes, get rid of any emotion, and go in there and do what you need to do. Afterwords, you can bring your emotion back and share a good talk with your child.
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