I love learning new thoughts on this, as raising children is hard. We all need new insight at times.
I like the Love and Logic approach modified to fit individual children’s needs and parental views of course. If you can find or buy a copy of the book or better yet attend a class you’ll come away with some cool ideas on how to better allow your children to take responsibility for their actions and choices without having to resort to heavy handed punishments and yelling.
#1 by Kleptin A on September 4th, 2009
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Simple. Raise them Chinese.
If they are anything other than obedient, smack them. Hard enough to make them cry, but not hard enough to actually injure them.
Always follow up physical discipline with guilt. Tell them that however much pain they felt was 10 times less than the pain they caused you by being disobedient.
Tell them that they are different from typical American children and that they shouldn’t act like them. Children who rebel are stupid and only do it because they think its cool. Tell them that they are being raised by a good family and that they will get far in life if they continue to be obedient. You are his/her mother/father and you love him/her and you only want what is best.
Send them to tutoring school saturday and sunday mornings, have them prepared for the SATs by the time they are graduating middle school.
If you keep this up until highschool, you will have loving, respectful, introverted children who value family, education, and good financial futures.
You can also bet that they will be either a doctor, lawyer, or investment banker before the age of 30.
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#2 by buttacupss on September 4th, 2009
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i believe it is best to instill within them as soon as they no english,your expectations and always be firm,don’t give in.your teaching them from day one,how to become a responsible adult.i don’t believe in spanking unless you’ve let your child get out of hand and have tried every other avenue,and even then,you must let the child know why.speak to your child as you would an adult,but in their lingo.
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#3 by Lori A on September 4th, 2009
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I like the Love and Logic approach modified to fit individual children’s needs and parental views of course. If you can find or buy a copy of the book or better yet attend a class you’ll come away with some cool ideas on how to better allow your children to take responsibility for their actions and choices without having to resort to heavy handed punishments and yelling.
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#4 by thnkredd on September 4th, 2009
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Hi 5. The words, "I do not like that" with the 5 fingers on your hand. When at someone elses’ home or out in public in general, explain ahead of time what you expect from the child. Remind them of the Hi5. And if you are not directly with your child, and you see him/her misbehaving, call their name to get their attention. When you have it, raise your hand and lift one finger at a time indicating "I Do Not Like That!" and that also signals that they will be punished later. We have just started it with my 2 year old and he already understands it.
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#5 by Melissa on September 4th, 2009
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I have a rowdy little 18 month old who seems to think he is 5 years old and in charge. All I can say is practice PATIENCE. It is the best way to honestly get your child to listen. I explain things to my son like he is anyone else. I do not baby talk and I speak in a regular voice. If he starts throwing a fit, I walk off or I turn around. until he stops then I give him his attention again. Speak to him at his eye level also. Intimidation is the worst way to get a child to listen. I do not believe in spankings but a stern strong voice and a consequence ( such as no attention from me until he can talk without screaming) will have a better mental efeect on your child. He will learn that you are more of a mentor than a dictator and with that comes well deserved respect. I understand my son is going through that " terrible two" stage but, I am not about to let it get the best of us. Also make sure you aand your spouse are on the same page as far as discipline goes. If you or he should say no make sure the other one backs you up without saying mommy said no or daddy doesn’t want you to do that… Kids are smart as hell and will find your weak points and run with it!
Dont under estimate your kids intelligence… just because they may not be able to speak as well as you and I, does not mean they dont understand you and can not comply with basic rules. My son knows when I am in the kitchen to stay away from the oven bc it is hot.. he will even come in and say HOOOTTTT when he sees the oven. It took a few times of no Blake that is hot for him to get it. It was so much easier on us both though that I didnt yell at him and whip his little behind. Kids are so curious and to spoil their curiosity with a beating everytime they explore will completly kill their desire to seek out adventures in his own life. I know this from experience. as a child ai was spanked and all it did was instill fear in me of asking questions and doing something wrong at anytime. Sorry I didnt mean to blog you out there.. 
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#6 by ieca909guy on September 4th, 2009
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I have rarely had to discipline my son because he was raised with plenty of love. we have talks of consequences to his actions and i can’t get upset if i haven’t told him not to. as a result, he is more confident that he can confide in me because he knows i wont get upset, thus he don’t fear me.we are on a first name bases with one another. yes, he calls me by my first name but to his friends, I’m his dad. the old reward and punishment method does not work it’s old school.
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