I have a near 2 year old son. (and believe me its not the terrible 2′s) Who has been acting up since 10 months old he, hits bites, screams pushes and doesn’t listen to his father nor I. He cannot sit still in church or important meetings ( he screams through the entire service) We’ve tried time out and even spankings but nothing is working. I afraid he is going to need medication. Any advice?
#1 by MetalHeart on July 21st, 2011
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It’s living hell sometimes isn’t it?
You need to ask yourself. What would Obama do? You want change, he offers change. Sit down, talk with this two year old, hear what he has to say, and see what can be worked out. j/k of course.
#2 by prosperity on July 21st, 2011
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I think he has allergies..see about milk or any colored dyes…there was a book years ago about this but I have no clue now…if he is allergic it will make him feel bad so adjust this..try to stay calm cause he picks up on your energy..spanking will just make him mader..focus on what you want…if you want him to be peaceful be very calm..I know it is hard but it works.
#3 by StickyBuns on July 21st, 2011
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kick his azzz
#4 by some black dude with no life on July 21st, 2011
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Whatever you do, you might not want to put him on meds before you check out how this could have happened and will happen more in the future. I wonder if this stuff was oddly happening after he got one of those Mercury (thermasal) laden vaccines… or maybe chuged a little too much of the tap water that has Sodium Flouride (a poison that was used to kill rats but oddly gets put in toothpaste and tap water) in it. Just search sodium flouride or flouride or thermasal and have at it.
#5 by alexandra v on July 21st, 2011
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I would take him to the doctor to rule out medical cause as it is not fair to discipline him normally if he can’t help acting like this. You could look at his diet and making sure he gets a good amount of sleep. You could try lots of praise for positive stuff he does as it becomes too easy to only give him attention (even though it is negative attention) when he plays up – know this is difficult when he is grinding you down with his bad behavior. Star charts etc, more carrot less stick? My mum swears by keeping your cool and giving them a more interesting game to play than the poor behavior (you just need to have endless energy and patience for this one!) Good luck!
#6 by gnightgracie72 on July 21st, 2011
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I have found that my pediatrician has lots of advice for these types of questions – you might try that.
2-year olds are hard to reason with – I think you need to start out picking the one or two behaviours you want to stop (like biting and hitting) and do a time out every time he bites/hits. Consistancy is the most important thing – if you put him in a pack & play every time with the words “You don’t bite Mommy; You don’t hit Daddy,” he will stop biting/hitting in 7 – 10 days. Once you have tackled the biting, you can add rules (like no throwing toys or no touching Mommy’s breakable things). It is exhausting, but you have to put him in the time out every single time he breaks a rule.
As for church or long meetings – I think your best bet is to keep him out of situations that he isn’t ready to handle. If you keep up with the time outs and adding rules, you will have a well behaved 3-year old who can sit through church! It just takes a lot of time and patience.
Good luck – little boys are a blessing!
#7 by **Autism's Beautiful Face** on July 21st, 2011
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Why would he need medication whats the world coming too and badly behaved child in most cases is lack of discipline ..they just need to be firmer of ways to deal with the anger, i am positive that a GP of a 2 year old wouldn’t put him on medication ..as a mum to a child with autism i know personally what this medication does it isn’t nice ..Thomas was on it a for a few weeks and it was like seeing a different child and that’s a bad way
#8 by sundsqk321@sbcglobal.net on July 21st, 2011
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Watch Supernanny.
#9 by joann.tina on July 21st, 2011
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welcome to parenthood, I had one son who was the perfect child so sweet and loving, then came my second one, oh my!!!!!!!!!! Your job is to teach new behavior, so step up, when my son hit, I would take his hand and quietly say no hitting, rub my hand over his cheek softly and tell him loving touches. then do it with his hand saying loving touching, biting is hard, they lose control of the there emotions sometime, when they get so upset that loss of control is very scary to them. biting calms them down I gave my son a stuffed animal to bite( it helped) I told him he could not bite people only beary bear I promise you they will and do grow out of this.
#10 by Rosey55 D on July 21st, 2011
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Give the timeouts another chance (I had a similar problem with my 2.5 year old). Make sure to put him in time out for 1 minute for how old he is. Make sure that you tell him why he is in time out. If he gets up from his spot before his time out is done do not talk to him and put him back in his spot. It is hard but stick to it and it should get easier. Your son might be eating something that his causing him to act this way also. Try limiting the MSG in his diet(this preservative can make kids very active).