Hello, Please list the ethnic/racial group that you identify with (this is so I can find answers from someone who’s ethnic/ racial background is different than my own) and explain your answer with examples and details. Thank you
Its not racism, its to get a better understanding of different cultures view on raising children. They vary from culture to culture and person to person. It was a question given to me by a college teaching class – not racist.
#1 by Lola on February 3rd, 2011
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spank on the butt and face.
But my husbands culture… (Indian)
Used to Water board children and cut tips of fingers off.
#2 by Age of Reason on February 3rd, 2011
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Time out corner. Still do it with my grand children Race has nothing to do with teaching your child.
What matters is being consistent. Within a week your child understands you mean business and within the month they learn to go sit in the corner when they do something wrong.
#3 by Saul on February 3rd, 2011
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Positive reinforcement. Re-direction through behavior modification using voice tone. Be affirmative most of the time.
#4 by Pocahontas on February 3rd, 2011
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wow…i was eager to answer your question until I saw the hint of racism. why does race really matter? this is 2010.
#5 by 2010 is gonna be awesome on February 3rd, 2011
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That 1st comment is SUPER DEMENTED AND SICKENING
#6 by Dorian on February 3rd, 2011
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My ethnicity is caucasian. And I don’t care what your ethnicity is, you never ever discipline an infant. Babies do not have the cognitive ability to make decisions or know right from wrong and therefore cannot misbehave. Yes, they can annoy you but they are not misbehaving and should never be disciplined.
As for toddlers, I use time-outs. I have never used physical discipline and only feel it is appropriate in safety issues, such as a child reaching for the fire on the stove or trying to run into the street. Then a spanking, only ever with an open hand, on the butt or the hand is appropriate. Physical discipline doesn’t teach the child they are doing something wrong, it simply makes them afraid. In safety issues, you want your child afraid of fire or cars but you do not want your child afraid of displeasing you. Time-outs and as they get older grounding or loss of privileges is what I feel is appropriate for discipline
#7 by Carrie on February 3rd, 2011
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Under 2 years old, I give a verbal correction in a firm voice and then redirect the behavior. 90% of discipline under 2 years old is being an observant parent and avoiding problems altogether.
After 2 years old, I give a 3-count and then a time out. Time out lasts for as long as it takes the child to be calm and quiet for a minimum of 30 seconds and to volunteer an apology. If that means, 30 seconds, that means 30 seconds. If that means an hour, that means an hour.
I’m not sure why race matters unless you’re looking for some sort of sociological pattern among the races, but for what it’s worth, I’m caucasian. If you are looking for some sort of sociological pattern, you’re better off asking about socio-economic status and education than you are race as most cultural trends transcend race and more closely track those factors.
#8 by Princess*Keesha on February 3rd, 2011
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I’m white. Infants I may pop lightly on the hand and say no, but I never pop him if he is under 14-15 months. Toddlers get time out and maybe a pop on the bottom.
#9 by What happened to Jenny Jones? on February 3rd, 2011
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I am SO a fan of Carrie’s. She speaks the TRUTH!
#10 by NINDY on February 3rd, 2011
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My son is 15 months and if hes getting into something he shouldn’t I’ll just tell him firmly No and distract him by giving him something that he can play with instead. When he throws a tantrum I just ignore him and he eventually calms down within a miinute and I’m Asian and my son is half Asian and Hispanic