I want to know what works? lol. I have a 4 year old that loves climbing. A 3 year old that loves to break things and I have a 2 year old that loves to follow the others around getting into things. lol. I like time out but it is so time consuming.
How do I discipline my toddlers?
#1 by tochau on January 5th, 2011
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wow.
uhm discipline them.
dont let them do everything they want. sometimes u HAVE to punish them, even if u love them with all ur heart.
if they dont stop now, then they’ll become worse in the future.
also, remember to not always give in to them, because they will keep on taking advantage of it.
make a schedule or rules for them. have them help u with chores, etc.
good luck!
#2 by rhambass on January 5th, 2011
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pull the 4 year old down off of whatever and spank them, move things out of your three year old’s reach, then smack his hands and make him clean it up if he still gets to it, and just let the two year old roam, because it sounds like if you get the other two under control the third one will either fall in line or find new mischief to get into.
Remember, you can physically discipline a child without abusing them.
#3 by Linda D on January 5th, 2011
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Time outs do NOT work!!!!! They need discipline NOW!!!
Why in the world are you allowing them to behave this way…..
You need to step up to the plate and act like a parent!!!
Swat them on the butt a few times and learn how to say NO!
#4 by mattfromasia on January 5th, 2011
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“Time out” is rarely done well.
You have a 4 year old that loves climbing? That’s great. Give him something to climb.
A 3 year old that loves to break things? What exactly does he break? Can give better advice if I know more details of that.
2 year old that gets into things? That’s what they do. Make sure you are very clear on what is your work and what they can get into. This age group loves to have their own routine and space to work.
The 3 year old that breaks things. Let me address some ideas in case one of them is yours.
–Is he breaking his toys? If so, do you make sure to NOT replace the toys? He’ll get bored easily if he only has a few non-broken toys left.
–Is he breaking your dishes? Does he have dishes he can take care of himself that are appropriate size? Ones HE can wash, put away, etc.
Does he have to work off the money to replace things with extra chores around the house? What level of responsibility do you already have for him to take care of these things?
“Time out” is only really good to be able to have the child get control of themselves again. It’s similar to walking out of the room and couting to 10 when someone makes you mad. If the child is crazy or disrupting someone else, it’s a good way for them to calm down and refocus. It’s not good if it’s used as a punishment. “You broke this…go sit over there.” I certainly don’t see the connection and don’t expect a young child to either. What you need to do is build in very natural consequences to the problems you’re facing. It’s not easy and you may often need to seek advice from other parents and/or teachers. And no matter how much advice you have, you still will NOT have a 100% success rate.
By the way, I typed this imagining 3 boys. My apologies to the gender sensitive if any/all of them are girls.
Matt
#5 by styree on January 5th, 2011
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DEAR MISS
YOU TAUGHT ME SOMETHING I DID NOT KNOW ABOUT
4 YEAR OLD KIDS AND CHILDREN ABOUT THE REALLY
BIG PROBLEM THAT I DID NOT KNOW 4 YEAR OLD
COULD CLIMB? WHAT IS HE ARE SHE CLIMBING ON? IN
ALL SERIOUS I DID NOT KNOW AT 4 YEAR OLD THAT A
CHILD COULD CLIMB I DID NOT THAT AT ALL SO SORRY
TO HEAR IT AS FOR IN THE WAY OF WALKING TALKING
AND RUNNING IN THE HOUSE NOW AND BREAKING
THINGS YES YES YES SAME WAY WITH A 2 YEAR OLD
BREAKING CUPS GLASSES ETC YES ALSO FOR THE 3
YEAR OLD THEY LOVE TO DO IT TO SEE IF THEY CAN
PUSH YOUR BUTTONS AND HOW FOR THAT THEY CAN
TAKE YOU TO THE LIMIT ON THESE THINGS THIS I DID
KNOW YOU HAVE TO SHOW THEM WHO IS THE BOSS
NOW THAT I DO KNOW AND SPANKING FROM (2-19) ON
THERE LITTLE BOTTOMS IS NOT CHILD ABUSE
I WOULD NOT LET THEM BREAK THE THINGS I
WORKED SO HARD FOR I DO KNOW THAT TO A TEE
TAKE CARE
#6 by jenn on January 5th, 2011
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Different things call for different punishments. With my son timeouts are for when he needs to cool down ( if he is yelling or talking back), grounding is for when he knows he is doing something wrong and has been told about it before ( not picking up his toys) spanking is for when he is doing something that he could get hurt at ( jumping off the back of the couch).
We tell him why he is getting punished and reward him when he has a good day, a smiley face on the calender or a special game works with him….but I also only have one child to contend with.