I have a 2 year old son and finds it difficult to discipline him. I have this fear that if I’m too strict or aggressive on him, he might grow up a criminal, disobedient or something. But if I’m too lax and understanding, he might abuse my goodness and forget his place. I know I’m just too worried about this, but I’ve read that raising a good and obedient child rely on disciplining him right and early.
Clear boundaries and consistent enforcement are the keys to disciplining children. You need to have a set of house rules regarding what is and isn’t acceptable behavior. He should be fully aware of what the rules are and what consequences are for not obeying them. When he does disobey, the stated consequences should be enforced exactly as they have been described every time. If you waiver, even once, the child will internalize that they can get by with the behavior and won’t be deterred next time. Of course, the boundaries and expectations should be age-appropriate and reasonable. I don’t believe in forcing kids to live in a militant home. I think it’s important to turn a blind eye to some of the more insignificant things now and then. Children should have the freedom to explore and learn through experience. Choose your battles wisely and your son will recognize and respond when something serious arises.
#1 by Emily Horror on July 9th, 2009
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well what i do is i take there toys away and no TV or i wont let them play outside and keep them in there room i never hit my child i find it wrong
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#2 by SSW on July 9th, 2009
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American way of time-outs can work if you know how to use it. Always be firm. You can play and fool around and as soon as u see the child doing a no-no you say in a loud-firm voice "No!"
Some easier way is to hit them but this is not recommended in the USA, for it’s illegal.
You always NEED TO praise your child for doing something right or doing something by himself. Make him feel better.
If you always yell at your child he will get confused, because there is no distinction between right and wrong but its always followed by a punishment. This can make the child to grow up shy and insecure. So make clear distinctions between what he does wrong and right
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#3 by Devonna R on July 9th, 2009
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take away toys and and important stuff and use spanking as a last resort was like that at my house but i never got a spanking but i did get a long scolding
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#4 by Richard B on July 9th, 2009
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You have to set firm limits and stick to your guns. Explain as simply as you can the reason for the discipline. It’s important for the child to understand this so that he knows you’re not just being a monster or something. Never hit a child to discipline him as this gives the message that hitting is the solution to problems.
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#5 by rrm38 on July 9th, 2009
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Clear boundaries and consistent enforcement are the keys to disciplining children. You need to have a set of house rules regarding what is and isn’t acceptable behavior. He should be fully aware of what the rules are and what consequences are for not obeying them. When he does disobey, the stated consequences should be enforced exactly as they have been described every time. If you waiver, even once, the child will internalize that they can get by with the behavior and won’t be deterred next time. Of course, the boundaries and expectations should be age-appropriate and reasonable. I don’t believe in forcing kids to live in a militant home. I think it’s important to turn a blind eye to some of the more insignificant things now and then. Children should have the freedom to explore and learn through experience. Choose your battles wisely and your son will recognize and respond when something serious arises.
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#6 by Emma's Mommy on July 9th, 2009
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I watch the show Super Nanny with Jo Frost and honestly, I really think she is great and she has the best discipline techniques out there. I got my 3 year old daughter a naughty chair, and whenever she is mean or does something unacceptable she goes on the naughty chair for 3 minutes and she caught on very easily and she rarely finds herself on the naughty chair because she hates it there. And Jo Frost also wrote a book with discipline techniques and that helped me a lot. Hope I helped.
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#7 by Kitty on July 9th, 2009
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I don’t think being strict will make him criminal or disobedient.. My father and mother is so strict and we all 7 in the family grew up without a criminal records.. Me myself I never drink alcohol in my whole life and never ever get drunk.. The bottom line here is that if you put rules in your family your kids will follow it and will respect it as their standards in life… It is necessary to communicate to your kids atleast 3 times a day to build friendship and bonding and listen to their aspirations and fears..
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#8 by Charlie Girl on July 9th, 2009
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You can be strict and expect him to do what he is capable of at his age or suffer the consequences. If you don’t, he will grow up expecting the world to revolve around him.
As long as you mix that with love, acceptance and let him know you see and appreciate all the good things about him and that he does, he will be fine.
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#9 by Jatherine M on July 9th, 2009
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I discipline my 32 year old by sending him to his room and taking away his toys when he does something bad. My 25 year old, I punish by spanking his bum usually. For my 8, 3, 10, 15, and 17 year olds, I simply tell them not to do whatever they did. But when they do something REALLY bad, they get sent to their rooms.
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#10 by *smile* on July 9th, 2009
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At 2, I removed them from the situation and usually (most likely) a very bad temper tantrum would follow. My bed worked the best. I sat them on my bed and they would lay there and cry and kick and scream for about 10 minutes, when they were finished i explained in kid terms why they got removed and then had to sit there to calm down for 2 minutes.
at the end I would usually say, "see there, if you will just listen to me next time we don’t have to go through this all crying and time out. It’s better to listen, right? Thank you for sitting quietly, I really appreciate that. *Hugs and Kisses* and it’s done.
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#11 by Trienchishyulaehm Wuriean on July 9th, 2009
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are you f-ing crazy…YOU WANT TO DISCIPLINE A 2 YEAR OLD….YOUR FULL OF SHIT!
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#12 by gtmda2005 on July 10th, 2009
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tie them up and beat them that is what my "parents" did
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#13 by sunset on July 10th, 2009
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when my daughter was young was told to take away her favourite toy which was play station and put her in room for 10 minutes
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#14 by Olivia on July 10th, 2009
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It’s hard to "stick to your guns", but it is worth your efforts; it will benefit you both: you will be the parent of a well behaved child & your son will be well behaved. It’s better to be strict, and have a fun side… this way your word (or warnings) will be taken seriously, and you can show your fun side when it’s appropriate. He will hopefully see this and mimic you.
And "terrible twos" are just that, awful.
Good Luck!!! =)))
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#15 by Karylan H on July 10th, 2009
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i discipline my daughter according to what she did, if she had an accident i make her take them off and clean up her puddle. if hse doesnt want to eat i make her sit at the table til she eats a designated amount, if she does something that warrants a spanking such as talking back or not listening then she gets a spanking.
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#16 by Old School Mom on July 10th, 2009
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He’s old enough for a spanking when deserved. That’s the punishment my girls had at his age.
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