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You should use time-out or taking away a privelege such as going somewhere. This is usually VERY effective if they are looking foward to something. They will get bumed that they have to sit in a corner or wherever for time-out.
MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!!
aLSO,
YOU SHOULD GIVE THEM A PRIZE IF THEY ARE GOOD FOR A CERTAIN AMOUNT OF TIME OR DURING SOMETHING.
It’s hard to dicipline a 1 year old, but as far as the other ages, timeouts for the 3 yr old, along with removal of toys. Make sure they understand WHY though. My sister in law still uses the “go to the wall” with her kids. meaning they stand and face the wall until they are told to do otherwise.
do not ever hit them and always remain cool and calm when they are acting up. some kids may find it funny when you get angry with them and won’t take you seriously. don’t call them names of belittle them. kids only copy what they are seeing.
Parents need to discipline their children to teach them right from wrong and to keep them from danger. It’s the type of discipline they inflict that should differ. I think at age 1,it’s enough to startle a child with a sharp “no”…. My son would cry when I said “no” as he knew it was something heshouldn’t do… For a 2 year old you can reason with them and tell them that can’t touch or eat (or whatever!) that object and explain why. For a 3 year old they can have a “time out” if they don’t share or they do some other 3 year old thing. I think it’s important that you discipline them each and every time, in other words, it’s the consistency that matters….
We primarily use time-outs to discipline our children. It all depends on what they are doing. I don’t think that a 1 year old really understands time-outs so a swat on the hand for touching something is appropriate. We also spank our children for more serious things and for telling us “NO”.
Hard to spoil a 1 year old.
Two year olds need clear boundaries.
Age 3 – clear boundaries with potential consequences (ie:timeout) for deliberate disobedience.
Always with love. Always caring.
Never yelling or spanking unless maybe it is something that threatens their safety (ie: playing with an electrical socket).
It’s very hard, yet very rewarding to be a parent.
there is actually a scientific answer to this question, but it depends on one thing: what is your goal? if your goal is to teach the child positive behavior, time out is the way to go. if your goal is simply to stop the negative behavior while it is happening, then you choose spanking or yelling or some type of what we call “type 1 punishment.” type 1 punishment is when you introduce an aversive stimuli. in layman’s terms, type 1 is when you do something to the person that they do not like. type 1 punishments do NOT teach positive behaviors. in fact, they may teach negative ones as they model hostility. but they do have a place — ONLY if your child is about to run into the street, hit another kid, touch the hot stove, etc. then you yell, smack, whatever you have to do to STOP the behavior right then. but the problem with these punishments is that they only work when the punisher is present and they model hostility. they do NOT teach the right way to behave. if you want your child to learn how to behave positively, then you shoudl use positive reinforcement — catch him or her doing what you WANT and reward him or her, even with just praise. do this a LOT. as for discipline, choose type 2 punishment, which includes time out. type 2 punishments involve removing the person from the chance to do things they like. so don’t do a time out in a play room, for example. a few other time out guidelines: no longer than 5 minutes, and if the child completes the time out agreeably, praise him or her at the end. now, this may take a little restraint. as a culture, we are taught to lash out when we are angry (a perfect example of how punishment teaches negative behavior). however, it has been proven by generations of behavioral psychologists that animals and humans LEARN via positive reinforcement and type 2 punishments — not type 1.
i wouldnt go with saying that monsters will get them or anyother scare tactics like that. you could use time-outs where you have them sit on a chair quietly for maybe 5 to 10 minutes. im not saying spanking them is a bad thing, but idk, i was spanked, and i think i turned out fine. haha. good luck
When you say NO, mean it. Don’t undo it by babying them and coddling them afterward. Let it sink in WHY they were punished. As they age (3 yrs and older and sometimes in their “terrible 2s”), a slap on the hand or on the butt may be necessary to get the point across. Once they learn that their wrongdoing may lead to a “punishment”, the fear will keep them from attempting them again. If you say No and punish them, follow through with the threat, just don’t let it be an empty one or one day the kid(s) will know that your all bark and no bite. Parents teach and parents “parent”.
Edit: Sometimes “Tough Love” is necessary to correct kids. You can’t be afraid to be a parent and discipline when necessary (not while angry however).
#1 by Miss Thang723 on August 12th, 2011
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Better start young.
#2 by john travolta on August 12th, 2011
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discipline should ony start around 2, time outs in there room are great, and rewarding them when they are good, but NO scare tactics, please
#3 by byucougar10921 rocks baby!!! on August 12th, 2011
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You should use time-out or taking away a privelege such as going somewhere. This is usually VERY effective if they are looking foward to something. They will get bumed that they have to sit in a corner or wherever for time-out.
MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!!
aLSO,
YOU SHOULD GIVE THEM A PRIZE IF THEY ARE GOOD FOR A CERTAIN AMOUNT OF TIME OR DURING SOMETHING.
#4 by K-K FO LIFE on August 12th, 2011
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tell them no no or say ahh dont whoop them because that is wrong but just say no
#5 by innosa on August 12th, 2011
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If time out does not work or taking toys away, try a nice smack on the bottom.
#6 by My whole heart is in Iraq on August 12th, 2011
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It’s hard to dicipline a 1 year old, but as far as the other ages, timeouts for the 3 yr old, along with removal of toys. Make sure they understand WHY though. My sister in law still uses the “go to the wall” with her kids. meaning they stand and face the wall until they are told to do otherwise.
#7 by DARK TEAR on August 12th, 2011
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Give the kid most things he wants….. Itz he’s childhood.
But do not allow them to scream at you
#8 by Joapuck on August 12th, 2011
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Depends… 1 is too early, but yes. Don’t hit them though.
#9 by gogirl8178 on August 12th, 2011
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do not ever hit them and always remain cool and calm when they are acting up. some kids may find it funny when you get angry with them and won’t take you seriously. don’t call them names of belittle them. kids only copy what they are seeing.
#10 by tiffany55 on August 12th, 2011
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1-2-3 Magic by Dr. Thomas Phelan
#11 by howardstern*sirius*channel*100 on August 12th, 2011
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Parents need to discipline their children to teach them right from wrong and to keep them from danger. It’s the type of discipline they inflict that should differ. I think at age 1,it’s enough to startle a child with a sharp “no”…. My son would cry when I said “no” as he knew it was something heshouldn’t do… For a 2 year old you can reason with them and tell them that can’t touch or eat (or whatever!) that object and explain why. For a 3 year old they can have a “time out” if they don’t share or they do some other 3 year old thing. I think it’s important that you discipline them each and every time, in other words, it’s the consistency that matters….
#12 by John on August 12th, 2011
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We primarily use time-outs to discipline our children. It all depends on what they are doing. I don’t think that a 1 year old really understands time-outs so a swat on the hand for touching something is appropriate. We also spank our children for more serious things and for telling us “NO”.
#13 by topcat1 on August 12th, 2011
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Reward and praise positive behaviour. Do not praise or laugh at naughty behaviour.
Age 3, you can use a naughty corner, but limit it to a minute for every year of their age, so for a three year old that would be three minutes.
Explain why the behaviour is wrong. Spend quality time doing activities with your child and encouraging good behaviour.
Be consistent – if you say ‘no’ stick to it, but be clear as to why you are saying no.
#14 by Steve on August 12th, 2011
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Hard to spoil a 1 year old.
Two year olds need clear boundaries.
Age 3 – clear boundaries with potential consequences (ie:timeout) for deliberate disobedience.
Always with love. Always caring.
Never yelling or spanking unless maybe it is something that threatens their safety (ie: playing with an electrical socket).
It’s very hard, yet very rewarding to be a parent.
#15 by sweet.city05 on August 12th, 2011
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dont whup the kid. maybe a little pop on the hand is usually good enough.
#16 by seattle mom on August 12th, 2011
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there is actually a scientific answer to this question, but it depends on one thing: what is your goal? if your goal is to teach the child positive behavior, time out is the way to go. if your goal is simply to stop the negative behavior while it is happening, then you choose spanking or yelling or some type of what we call “type 1 punishment.” type 1 punishment is when you introduce an aversive stimuli. in layman’s terms, type 1 is when you do something to the person that they do not like. type 1 punishments do NOT teach positive behaviors. in fact, they may teach negative ones as they model hostility. but they do have a place — ONLY if your child is about to run into the street, hit another kid, touch the hot stove, etc. then you yell, smack, whatever you have to do to STOP the behavior right then. but the problem with these punishments is that they only work when the punisher is present and they model hostility. they do NOT teach the right way to behave. if you want your child to learn how to behave positively, then you shoudl use positive reinforcement — catch him or her doing what you WANT and reward him or her, even with just praise. do this a LOT. as for discipline, choose type 2 punishment, which includes time out. type 2 punishments involve removing the person from the chance to do things they like. so don’t do a time out in a play room, for example. a few other time out guidelines: no longer than 5 minutes, and if the child completes the time out agreeably, praise him or her at the end. now, this may take a little restraint. as a culture, we are taught to lash out when we are angry (a perfect example of how punishment teaches negative behavior). however, it has been proven by generations of behavioral psychologists that animals and humans LEARN via positive reinforcement and type 2 punishments — not type 1.
#17 by ElioraImmanuel on August 12th, 2011
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Read, “To Train Up a Child” by Michael and Debi Pearl and “The New Dare to Discipline” by Dr. James Dobson.
#18 by agneiderer on August 12th, 2011
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i wouldnt go with saying that monsters will get them or anyother scare tactics like that. you could use time-outs where you have them sit on a chair quietly for maybe 5 to 10 minutes. im not saying spanking them is a bad thing, but idk, i was spanked, and i think i turned out fine. haha. good luck
#19 by DoctorSchultz on August 12th, 2011
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get Dare to Discipline
by Dr. James Dobson
#20 by Mr. Eagle on August 12th, 2011
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When you say NO, mean it. Don’t undo it by babying them and coddling them afterward. Let it sink in WHY they were punished. As they age (3 yrs and older and sometimes in their “terrible 2s”), a slap on the hand or on the butt may be necessary to get the point across. Once they learn that their wrongdoing may lead to a “punishment”, the fear will keep them from attempting them again. If you say No and punish them, follow through with the threat, just don’t let it be an empty one or one day the kid(s) will know that your all bark and no bite. Parents teach and parents “parent”.
Edit: Sometimes “Tough Love” is necessary to correct kids. You can’t be afraid to be a parent and discipline when necessary (not while angry however).