How to discipline a child with asperger’s at the age of 10 years old?
Same as any other child I agree, but to remember all children are different anyway… all children response well to clear boundaries and lots of positive encouragement. Asperger children I have one and I am on the autism spectrum myself are often very intelligent and even before that age I found speaking with my child not at them really helped, the only way to understand any child is to get down to there level and listen to them…
"You cannot discipline away a difference – I am often around children who I see as autistic but the parents and at times the children are not ready for the label, no easy tasks for any professional and guess the label will not change the child, but understanding makes a huge difference, especially to the child and often the relationship they have with the parents, teachers, school etc…sadly I see time and time again partners working along with the school wanting to change, get their children to conform without really understanding them, this just leads to boredom, frustration and anger long term and often a lot of unnecessary pain on the child’s part, I wish more parents would get down on the child’s level and truly see through their eyes…. from asplanet"
#1 by Sofa King on August 26th, 2009
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Same as any other kid
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#2 by mcc on August 26th, 2009
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First before there is an issue you should make sure there are clear rules that the child understands (if you ever watch SuperNanny when she makes a chart) that’s how they should be.
If there is misbehavior – ask them "what did you do?" and wait until you get an answer – don’t ask why it gives them an a mindset to blame others – an imporatant skill is that the student has responsibility for their behavior.
Don’t talk it to death, don’t punish a day later – it is far more effective to provide good reinforcements for when they are doing good that punishing.
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#3 by justmeinthisworld on August 26th, 2009
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can be teh same as any other kid for typical behavior
but if there is something specific that seems to be related to teh aspergers–you may want to consider a behavior plan to reinforce (reward) appropriate behavior instead of punishing
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#4 by Aspergers Parallel Planet on August 26th, 2009
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Same as any other child I agree, but to remember all children are different anyway… all children response well to clear boundaries and lots of positive encouragement. Asperger children I have one and I am on the autism spectrum myself are often very intelligent and even before that age I found speaking with my child not at them really helped, the only way to understand any child is to get down to there level and listen to them…
"You cannot discipline away a difference – I am often around children who I see as autistic but the parents and at times the children are not ready for the label, no easy tasks for any professional and guess the label will not change the child, but understanding makes a huge difference, especially to the child and often the relationship they have with the parents, teachers, school etc…sadly I see time and time again partners working along with the school wanting to change, get their children to conform without really understanding them, this just leads to boredom, frustration and anger long term and often a lot of unnecessary pain on the child’s part, I wish more parents would get down on the child’s level and truly see through their eyes…. from asplanet"
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http://www.asplanet.info/
#5 by Sp_Spring on August 26th, 2009
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Use a "behavior contract" if you are talking of specific behaviors you want him to display…Tell him how you expect them to behavior (not "Don’t" or "no"), model it, and directly teach the skill/s. In the contract state "I (student name) will use nice words and stay at my desk during classtime (may have to be more specific) for at least (reasonable amount of time…do a baseline if the student gets up every minute, then a good place to start make be "for 2 minutes")" If I use nice words and stay in my seat for (time) then I will get (reward, can be computer time, game time, one on one time, special snack/lunch/object, seat, happy note home etc).
Also have a "bonus" "If I stay in my seat and use nice words with no reminders (or for a longer time) then I will get (extra reward).
Have an "oops" "If I get out of my seat more than once in two minutes I will (have something taken away, privlidge lost, ect).
Make sure you are VERY VERY clear and precise eough that if ANYONE read the contract and then watched they would know what your student would get. that way your student will know. Start with checking the contract after every period (or even a few times a period), reward (you can use "tickets") and consequences as needed…be sure that once a reward is earned your student keeps it (DO NOT take away EVER if they earned it, they did earn it let them have it)…
Good luck.
Also be sure you know your student what they like and don’t like, talk to them have have them create the contract with you..and you BOTH sign it.
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#6 by Emily Ashcroft on June 6th, 2010
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Interesting article, thank you. There are a lot of articles out there that don’t make as much sense about Asperger’s, so that’s refreshing. I’ve made a note of your site details and will visit again.