Is there ways of disciplining a child?In regards to different stages of children can you suggest other way of disciplining?
NO.
True discipline, in my humble opinion, involves TEACHING and GUIDING your children from an early age. For young children, that is simple redirection. Very young children do not have the ability to understand cause and effect, nor to remember what they did long enough for a time-out to be effective. They are learning about their world by exploring, putting things in their mouths, etc. That does not require punishment, but redirection. You need to make sure their environment is safe, or you are around at all times to teach them what is safe behaviour and what is not.
For children over two, time-outs are effective, and natural consequences.
For older children, removing toys or favourite activities.
#1 by Gregory W on September 10th, 2009
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Smacking your hands together gets attention and indicates that smacking something else may not feel to good either.
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#2 by big_dogg on September 10th, 2009
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As a aprent myself, we find the "naught step" awesome, although if your child is 15 it may not work (unless it’s in public somewhere..)
HAving said that I was a little sh1te as a kid and I was beaten, and had I not had those beatings I probably wouldn’t be sorted now…
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#3 by duck on September 10th, 2009
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How old is your child?
If he is between 4-8 I will suggest to put him in his room for a while.
But if he does something like hit you, swear, etc Don’t let him use his favorite toy for a view hours.
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#4 by hedoesn'tevenknow.. on September 10th, 2009
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no you don’t need physical punishment.
time outs, taking away privledges, as soon as the child realizes that your not playing around about times out, and they are gonna stay there until he or she is ready to come out and play nice or whatever, and say sorry to the people they did wrong too, then they will realize that they can’t do that. the same goes for take away things. you tell them to stop, doesn’t wwork. time out. they turn around the time out so they are in charge, time out for longer, still not working, tell them you’ll take away tv for a week, or computer, or something they play with a lot, but you HAVE to follow through with what your saying, or it will never workk…
good luck!!
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#5 by Lauri-girl on September 10th, 2009
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Unfortunately, what one person calls discipline another person calls abuse. The idea of rearing your child is looked on with different eyes with every person. Unfortunately, The easiest way you can know what your child needs is to pay attention. Letting a child do whatever they want early on allows them to become very aggressive, and not be much of a listener later in life. If you rear a child with upfront aggression, it’ll be a pensive and scared child. Now, if you learn the medium between where you should punish physically, and where you should keep them in check, you’re good to go. I still believe on swatting a kid on the butt once in awhile, but like my mom says; No Fists, No Bruises, No large red marks, No blood. If you hit any of those four, you’re gotten to abuse.
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#6 by Austinlad on September 10th, 2009
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Well, you could take all their cool sh*t away, but I promise you they will just hate you for it. Physical punishment is fine as long as its not too exaggerated (you may need to combine it with taking privileges). Don’t overdo it unless they’re really being difficult. I’d stop doing that when they’re in middle school, then switch to taking privileges away, but always give them a good reason they can understand…
Good luck!
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#7 by Me!!! on September 10th, 2009
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Sometimes with a very young child, a single, shocking smack is one of the only things to really get a point across. Once over about 4 or 5, though, you should think of other ways. So do things that work for YOUR child.
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#8 by ? on September 10th, 2009
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NO.
True discipline, in my humble opinion, involves TEACHING and GUIDING your children from an early age. For young children, that is simple redirection. Very young children do not have the ability to understand cause and effect, nor to remember what they did long enough for a time-out to be effective. They are learning about their world by exploring, putting things in their mouths, etc. That does not require punishment, but redirection. You need to make sure their environment is safe, or you are around at all times to teach them what is safe behaviour and what is not.
For children over two, time-outs are effective, and natural consequences.
For older children, removing toys or favourite activities.
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Early Childhood Educator, mother of 17 month old
#9 by zaza on September 10th, 2009
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Physical punishment is never, ever NECESSARY but it is a form of discipline and punishment that many parents CHOOSE.
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#10 by Meleas on September 10th, 2009
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Yes I do think so.
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#11 by olschoolmom on September 10th, 2009
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I believe so in the 2-12 age group. Every family is different, and must choose what they feel comfortable with.
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#12 by White Raindrop on September 10th, 2009
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I do not think it is absolutely necessary to use physical punishment. We use spanking occasionally, but that is just our choice. I think finding a way to discipline your child that works for them is the most important thing
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