many people don’t believe in spanking and let their children run wild.
Is it easier just to let them go? Is it the parents job to discipline them>?
it would be the easy way out to just let them do whatever they want,
but is it good for the child,NO.
children need boundaries and whether they know it or not they want boundaries.
I have no problem with a spanking,but not when you are angry,I would send the child to his or her room and let things cool down and then explain to the child why they are being punished and that you love them.
if children are not corrected when they do bad things they will grow up thinking everyone should just let them do what they want and no consequences.
for those who think spanking is un necessary,
if something else works then fine but time outs don’t work for every child.
#1 by P.I. Joe on October 10th, 2009
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In the short term yes, it’s a lot easier. No effort required.
But in the long run, having to pick your teenager up from a holding cell and dealing with lengthy court proceedings and judgements for money…a lot harder.
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#2 by Nina Lee on October 10th, 2009
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In the long run, it’s easier to discipline them every step of the way. However, discipline does not equal spanking.
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#3 by angelbaby on October 10th, 2009
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There are alternatives to spanking you know. Just because a parent doesn’t spank, it doesn’t mean they let their kids run wild.
And yes, in the end it’s easier to discipline them. It teaches them consequences, limits, and respect for others.
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#4 by Heyahey on October 10th, 2009
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Discipline with care. When safe, let them to take decisions. Yeah, it really is it the parents job to discipline them.
It’s not a guarantee that every parent will be successful on doing that, but it’s parent’s responsibility to try.
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#5 by sara k on October 10th, 2009
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I agree, parents who don’t discipline are taking the easy way out and are being very foolish. Long term you are going to have some serious problems if you just let you kids do whatever they want. Kids need structure and discipline and if you don’t give it to them, they will most likely act out and it will only get worse as they get older
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#6 by realggirl on October 10th, 2009
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Spanking is not "discipline." It’s just cruel.
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#7 by Mrs. K on October 10th, 2009
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There are so many ways to discipline your child without using force or give spankings. For things to be in order you have to discipline so I’m always up for discipline. They can do what they want and roam freely when they become adults and are financially dependent on themselves.
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#8 by Debbie on October 10th, 2009
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Just because a child isn’t spanked doesn’t mean he/she isn’t disciplined in other ways.
It may seem easier to let a child do what they want but children need guidance and it is a parents duty to give that guidance which includes correcting them when necessary. As for spanking if it used it should be as an absolute last resort it is perfectly possible to correct without spanking.
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#9 by Rugratzzzzzzzzzzz on October 10th, 2009
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Its very easy to let things go and just close your ears and eyes to the probelm, but one day its going to jump up and bite you.
children need discipline, they actually want it, they need guide lines that is why they test you at every moment, just to see how far they can go. I know I did when I was small.
Discipline does not always mean smacking ( I think there is a time and place for it) but letting the children know that they cannot go any further, enough is enough.
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#10 by Blessed on October 10th, 2009
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it would be the easy way out to just let them do whatever they want,
but is it good for the child,NO.
children need boundaries and whether they know it or not they want boundaries.
I have no problem with a spanking,but not when you are angry,I would send the child to his or her room and let things cool down and then explain to the child why they are being punished and that you love them.
if children are not corrected when they do bad things they will grow up thinking everyone should just let them do what they want and no consequences.
for those who think spanking is un necessary,
if something else works then fine but time outs don’t work for every child.
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#11 by Empowering Parents on October 10th, 2009
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Tiptoeing is giving in to the child’s behavioral blackmail. What happens is that the child will give signals when he doesn’t like what’s going on. When he’s asked to do something he doesn’t want to do. Or when he’s asked to stop something he’s doing. Tiptoeing means giving in when he gives those signals. You read the signals and change your demands. Not giving in is a matter of keeping the expectations firm and consistent even when he starts to escalate.
An example of escalation is when you tell the child to do their homework. They say “No!” and slam their book down on the table. Instead of giving in, give it a minute, and remind him that if he doesn’t start now, he’ll lose a minute of computer time. You can leave the room or wait a minute. Take that time to build yourself up, and then explain what the consequences of his actions will be. If he continues to escalate, tell him he’ll lose any time he could have had on the computer that evening. That’s how they’re going to learn. The parent should avoid yelling and avoid overt conflict.
Your tone should be firm and businesslike, not unpleasant. Often with these kids their behavior will escalate when they’re being told to do something. So it’s not accepting those cues or giving them any attention at all, and then redirecting the child, giving him a minute to calm down.
The truth is, parents can get into patterns that become increasingly more ineffective as the child gets older. Parents want to do the right thing, but sometimes they’re overwhelmed and they take shortcuts. Before they know it, the kid is nine, twelve or sixteen and he’s got them backed into the corner. But parents should not expect less of a child because of the behavioral blackmail and they shouldn’t accept less.
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