There are some things in life you just donâ??t forget. I can remember when I was a little boy growing up and my mom and dad had their family rules and traditions. As I reminiscence on yesterday and consider the morals that was set for me when I growing up I canâ??t but thank both my parents for having family values that has lasted a lifetime. I often find myself raising my daughter with the same family values I grew up with. Having respect for your elders and respecting those in authority positions. Showing respect to others regardless of how you treated and learning to be trustworthy and honest in relationships.
I often find myself using the same methods but with a different twist to keep everything up-to-date with her generation. However, I do not compromise with the disciplines that work most effectively. Good ole fashion but whipping is still one of the best methods of discipline today. Iâ??m still here after forty plus years of living; and I did not die when either one of my parents put a belt on my butt.
Todayâ??s children attempt to threaten their parents by telling them theyâ??re call the police or some social service program if you use a belt to whip their behind. A good psychological way of nipping this in the bud; is simply giving your child the phone number of the agency or police department and tell them to give them a call. As a parent the best way to discipline your children is to do it with a calm spirit; which can be hard to do at times. Never discipline your child when you are angry. This is where abuse can come into effect, and you could get yourself in trouble with corporal punishment if you find yourself breaking your childâ??s skin or leaving bruise marks while discipling your children.
Always think before you act and consider other methods of punishment before you automatically jump to corporal punishment. Sometimes corporal punishment doesnâ??t always work. Even though I believe and know itâ??s still effective today. You will guarantee yourself and your children and their children good family values if you start early in their lives with whatever method of discipline you choose for your family. Every family is different; every child is different, so pay close attention to which works best for you and your family. Iâ??m certain if you look back over your life Iâ??m sure there was someone who showed you they cared. Whether it was your father, step-father or natural parent, legal guardian, foster-parent, older sibling; somewhere along the way there were some kind of strong family value that shaped the way you are today.
Your child or children are an asset to you and not a liability. Look, Children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of your womb is a reward. Psalm 127:3. If you are struggling with your parental rights and responsibilities sign-up to receive tips on life in general and I can help you with your parenting concerns.
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#1 by akband on July 30th, 2009
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Why are there no family values left with Christians while Muslim’s and Jews prefer a joint family system?
Is it because of less faith in the Bible or the parents do not properly fulfill the religious obligations, I heard a pastor on T.V that some Christians come to Church twice in there lifetime one when they are born and on when they die. In my opinion the abolition of the joint family system by the Christians has led to shying away from religion and maybe inclining towards Atheism
#2 by johnny cee on July 30th, 2009
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Parts of the church have become quite liberal. Its sad. But take heart for if you truly love Jesus you are in the Family of God.
I Cr 13;8a
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#3 by Abdul Hassan on July 30th, 2009
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…that’s not true. There are plenty of Jewish and Muslim divorcees. Religion plays very little part in keeping families together. Love and honesty does.
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#4 by Steven McTowelie. on July 30th, 2009
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My father lives with us. My mother lives in town. My wife’s parents live near our kids school. We see each other all the time. How have we abandoned family?
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#5 by butch on July 30th, 2009
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I think you dont know what you are talking about
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#6 by Cheshire Cat on July 30th, 2009
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I was unaware that muslim and jewish families used joints. There’s something new to learn every day…
You think the jewish families are *less* atheistic than christians? Wow. You naive.
You think that there aren’t millions of questioning and disaffected muslims? You really need to get out more…
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#7 by Ziad S on July 30th, 2009
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its no so much the religion , but the people many christians have just stopped believing , look how empty churches are these days, on the other hand islam is the fastest growing religion today .
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#8 by anil s on July 30th, 2009
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no i dont agree withthat. muslims are the most corrupt community on this green planet. they killed their bros for ruling. nothing wrong with cristians but only the tendency to show others whether we have or can aford just for show.
if u wana spend hundred and have 10 only rest ninty comes from crime or adultration.
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#9 by SeeTheLight on July 30th, 2009
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Not true. I do not follow religion, I am follower of Jesus, and I attend the church every week.
I agree that many Christians are shying away from the personal relationship with God. I would consider a lot of them more Agnostics rather than Atheists. Many Christians believe in Gd they just do not have a personal relationship with God, and they have doubts because they do not feel Him. Many Christians do not go that far that they deny God, they believe at least to some kind of higher power.
They are not really Christians if they do not follow Jesus. Are you a car if you are in the garage?
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#10 by Christopher on July 30th, 2009
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You are overgeneralizing. Christianity has not abandoned family values. Divorce is a sad symptom of our society that occurs in all walks of life.
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#11 by mommynow on July 30th, 2009
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i agree with abdul.
perhaps you live in an area that is predominently christian? (for instance, america) since it is very easy to obtain a legal divorce here, maybe you are seeing more christians take advantage of this. then your question becomes one of perception.
as far as atheism is concerned, you can actually be an atheist and still be jewish. not so with christianity, so i don’t understand your connection there.
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i’m jewish
#12 by College Guy on July 30th, 2009
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It is true, that in the United States of America, post-moderism is injuring the role of the church in citizen’s lives. The country’s ideals in business, society, etc, of being me first and to hell with everyone else is changing many people’s outlooks.
"I can’t go to church today, I need to work, the $150,000 Hummer has a payment coming due and needs to be filled with $5 a gallon gasoline."
"I can’t go to church today I need to work, did you see the Smith’s new Hummer, we need a Hummer."
It is the society in which we live that is putting the biggest strain on our religious and family obligations.
What doesn’t help today is society as a whole in largely turning away from religion, which is causing a landslide effect.
"Hey, wanna watch the game?"
"I’ll catch the 2nd half with ya, going to church"
"Oh, your one of those religious freaks."
There are some in the christian community who are trying to combat this downward spiral but there in your face attitude is doing the opposite effect making no believers stray futher away and take there friends with them.
When it comes to religion, same goes for family values.
"I can’t go to Timmy’s baseball game I got a big deal I going to close."
"I’m sorry I didnt have dinner with the family again tonight, but the boss is looking for someone to promote and I have to impress him."
Ideally Christianity prefers joint family systems as well, but materialism and post-modernism are tearing the fabric of our moral and religious values. In the United States getting a divorce is almost as easy as getting a cheeseburger at McDonald’s and for some people a very lucrative means of living. Marry someone rich…divorce, take half, marry again, or simply marring someone and sticking around to suck them bone dry. These activities in American society have become desireable.
Also the term to be a christian is very easy.
"Are you a christian?"
"Of course,"
"Then whose Jesus?"
"One of the many ways to get to heaven."
"Is he the son of God?"
"Thats hard to define, he’s more than human, but I dont know if he is the son of God."
"Why did he die?"
"To offer another means of getting into heaven."
No realistically the 2nd person in Christian in title only as the individual doesnt accept key doctrine, but society will not judge him/her any differently then any other christian. Thanks to post-moderism, the term christian is defined by the way you want to define it, the means of salvation, defined by you, good family values, mine are not yours. America is failing to realize that when it comes to christian, moral values, and family values "Have it your way" is not a way of life
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#13 by orchidmg on July 30th, 2009
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I am Catholic and was raised with strong family values and am raising my son with strong values as well. So don’t count me in your survey poll. Muslims, seems to me, have fear. Jews have the longest family traditions and try hard to stay away from the secular world. The problem with family values is that the secular world is bigger and stronger now. The media throws this crap in our faces all the time and our children can get their hands on it at any time, anywhere. Our USA govt allows freedom of speech and the press to go the distance and this has allowed porn everywhere, foul language everywhere, TV shows with sexual content and violence, even the 30-minute sitcoms are no longer simple funny, moral family shows. They all have sex crap and innuendos and such on them. This is where our children get it. And mothers work outside the homes much more now so they are no longer home to care for the children and protect them like 30 years ago.
Our govt is full of Christians and the separation of church and state has let crap in all over the place. I do strongly believe morals and lessons all start at home. But if both parents work and kids are free to come and go and they please and have non-supervised access to TV, movies and internet, our children tune into immoral crap and thus they lose to the temptations. I don’t agree with a govt have total control of our lives but the American freedom has allowed too much freedom, thus allowing immoral values to reign.
I think once a children or teen get the freedom of immorals, it’s hard to get them back to the rules of God. They rebel and run away and such. Usually they will learn their lessons and turn back to God but that’s not until they are much, much older and have children of their own. Sadly, I have no answer to bringing back family values and stabilizing it today. The secular world have control of us now. I can only raise my son and pray for all others.
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#14 by tigerwren on July 30th, 2009
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It’s not so much the religion that does that but the culture. When a group of people immigrate to America for instance, they will cram as many people as possible into a tiny house in order to save living expenses. The money that is saved is used to educate everyone in the household. Even when someone moves out of the house, everyone continues to pool money until the next generation graduates. Hispanics do that and they are predominantly catholic.
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#15 by Sternchen on July 30th, 2009
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We don’t live crowded together in one place. But we still keep contact to family members and get together from time to time. There is always someone around if I need help.
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#16 by Lost_In_JobHunt on July 30th, 2009
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u r absolutely right…. reality of teaching is known by its fruit. Look around in US .. crimes are rising..rapes are rising..killing ..adultery is normal fashion. everything considered bad in religion is rising like crazy..
Have u seen anything like this in any Islamic country? or take a moment and go to any Muslim community and see for urself that how many rapist, murderers or adulterers are there.
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#17 by In Light on July 30th, 2009
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First your statement is incorrect and not balanced with truth, many thousands of people who call themselves Christians aren’t followers of Yeshua (Jesus). Not every one who crys Lord, Lord, will enter the kingdom of heaven but those who do the will of The Father. Though when we sin ,we have an advocate with the Father Jesus Christ the righteous. And we are not saved by works of righteousness but by The precious blood of Yeshua The anointed one.But many professing Christians are learning how to over come their flesh on a daily basis by The Word of His power, living in faith and by faith. not loving their lives unto death, etc. Others simply have no desire to ever serve Him except by lip service only.Hopefully they will come to light of the knowledge of Jesus Christ. but my family and many others are close knit and serving Him every day, in most every way.My family is strong as a family in Yeshua (Jesus, the messiah) Muslims,Mormons, Hindu, etc. walk in the darkness of their own made up works and man made knowledge. Even many Jews refuse Messiah who fulled every feast of The Lord, and every prophecy of the old covenant (A mere human impossibility) Hundreds of perfect fulfillments. Yeshua was the first fruit, ever raised to over come the power of satan in the earth and re-opened The way of fellowship with Father God, The perfect lamb of God that takes away the sin of the world. In him is the life and everlasting salvation by grace through faith. A free gift of untainted blood, delivering all who know Him and He knows, by His own choice.So I’m not sure where you got your information but it’s worth re-thinking and study, and seeking full truth and understanding which only comes by way of The Holy Spirit (Ruach Ha Kodesh)
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Word of truth,by way of Holy Spirit of The Living God!