I’m starting to realize as my daughter is getting older that I tend to yell at her alot. I also my pop her hand when she does something wrong. I know these are not good forms of discipline. I do time out also. But I would like to read and educate myself on how to discipline instead of punishing my daughter.. Please give me some good book ideas.. Thanks
#1 by blondbrainserenity on April 17th, 2011
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Anything by Dr.James Dobson. He has several books out on disciplining and for several different age groups. I have read 2 of them and they are excellent..and work!
Best wishes
#2 by qt_pitutie1564 on April 17th, 2011
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I think you are doing just fine. Your daughter is testing the boundaries right now. If she does something wrong, don’t let her get away with it. If you let her get away with it once, and then punish her the next time she does it you will confuse her. You don’t need a book to teach you that. Be firm. Good Luck
#3 by marnonyahoo on April 17th, 2011
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Good for you for recognizing the difference! Here is a list of some great books!
Children: The Challenge by Rudolf Dreikers
This is a great starting place for parents. Offers advice and techniques for dealing with many misbehaviors using natural and logical consequences. This is an amazing book!
P.E.T. Parent Effectiveness Training by Thomas Gordon
Addresses issues of family communication, conflict resolution, and raising children without the use of shame or punishment.
Parenting Young Children by Don & James Dinkmeyer and Gary McKay
Deals with issues of temperament, stages of development, and parents’ expectations. Discusses communicating with children and defines what misbehavior is (and what it isn’t), and why reward and punishment are ineffective forms of discipline.
Discipline That Works by Thomas Gordon
Provides evidence that punitive discipline and punishment are harmful to children and are ineffective as a means to fostering children’s good behavior. Provides strategies to help children control their own behavior.
Easy To Love, Difficult To Discipline by Becky Bailey, Ph.D.
Gives tools to stop policing and pleading with children and foster self-control in both children and parents. Explores the importance of parents understanding their own motivations and reactions to children’s behavior.
Guiding Young Children by Eleanor Reynolds
Offers practical problem solving techniques that exclude the use of punishment, blame or guilt. Presents techniques for developing listening skills, negotiation, conflict resolution, and setting limits.
That should keep you busy!
#4 by sgtlambsonswife on April 17th, 2011
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Some of the best ideas I’ve heard of were from the book ‘Parenting With Love and Logic’. I use the ideas from that book on my three year old and she’s a very well-behaved and loving kid (usually).