Are you for or against hitting a child to discipline? why?
Spanking, yes. Hitting at random, no. —————
Poll: For or against hitting a child in order to discipline?
Discipline
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Are you for or against hitting a child to discipline? why?
Spanking, yes. Hitting at random, no. —————
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#1 by ? Darksongbird ? on August 14th, 2009
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For. It puts the naughty ones in line most of the time. I turned out fine and I was disciplined as a child at times.
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#2 by RIVERKID on August 14th, 2009
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Spanking, yes. Hitting at random, no. —————
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#3 by Hot Guy on August 14th, 2009
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I’m for smacking the child with lots of kisses on his/her cheeks.
Thats the way to discipline a child if you ask me.
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#4 by ?!?? ??!??? ?? on August 14th, 2009
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For..
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#5 by Princess on August 14th, 2009
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i think there is other ways around it, maybe just a slap on the wrist is ok
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#6 by Angelkiss85 on August 14th, 2009
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Against, you should never hit your child!
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#7 by KatShhhh on August 14th, 2009
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Physical punishment teaches worth while lessons, but it must be a last resort
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#8 by Nikki on August 14th, 2009
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a little smack here and there but with in reason
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#9 by ? G????¢ ?????¢? ? on August 14th, 2009
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* Some deserve it ( like I did hahahaha ) Some don’t – I turned out oki ;o ) *
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#10 by so what?! on August 14th, 2009
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against! it never worked on me, and just made me rebel against my parents.
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#11 by Linkin Park Rule (3) on August 14th, 2009
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very in favor of it only if you keep to a limit and if it is ONLY for discipline.
and those methodes, like taking away there games and no supper and stuff like that doesn’t help at all, it never worked on me. if i didn’t get games, fine i don’t care but i kept being naughty
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#12 by scubalvr (formerly blah) on August 14th, 2009
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against! thats child abuse (in my opinion). a more useful punishment would be to take away their desert or the computer or make them go to bed early or something like that
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#13 by Alice Cullen - Twilight Fan on August 14th, 2009
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Depends.
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#14 by HAnnaH on August 14th, 2009
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Well Against for sure. But at the same time i think when they are young a little tap will do. When my cousin gets hit it makes her upset and scared when she make mistakes.
Talking instead of bashing LOL
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#15 by supermk342 on August 14th, 2009
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Spanking? I’m for it.
My experience has been that kids who are spanked (like me! and I turned out well!) are better behaved. Spanking is also easier to administrate than trying to force a child to sit still for a while, and they stay on the child’s mind longer.
Also, the Bible supports it.
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#16 by i AM standing up! :D on August 14th, 2009
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For spanking…..of course there is a very fine line you should never cross, but definately for
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#17 by Ammo on August 14th, 2009
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I believe in giving a smack to a child who is behaving very badly when all other attempts to control them fail along with explaining why they are being smacked. My mum used to smack me and my brothers when we were younger and it didn’t do us any harm
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#18 by Next Best Thing on August 14th, 2009
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Yes! "spare the rod and spoil the child" – the Holy Bible
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#19 by shane s on August 14th, 2009
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Yes, but only when necessary (i.e.. Class A Violation), then they cope it!!
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#20 by ziggyman on August 14th, 2009
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for. children need discipline and direction, and they need reinforcement of good behavior and need to learn that bad behavior will not be tolerated. i’m not saying beat the crap out of them, but a deserved spanking on occasion will NOT hurt them.
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#21 by Dr House on August 14th, 2009
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Against. I believe in discipline but i’ve been on the rough end of abuse that was scarring and i dont wish that on anyone.
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#22 by Willy Average 317537 on August 14th, 2009
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Yeah give them something to cry about.
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#23 by ii. rep. [ afg ] [ ????? ] bakup on August 15th, 2009
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For.
It works trust me.
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#24 by ?Beans 4Brains™ SUPER BRAT! on August 15th, 2009
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…. Grrrrrr ….. I say punch those little bast@rds !!!
okay not really. Discipline is one thing, abuse is another. Personally i don’t feel that there is anything wrong with spanking; BUT rationalizing is far greater a discipline. What does it profit you if you kick the crap out of them but they do not understand what they did wrong or why you’re beating them up? I think that spanking should be a last resort. There are much more positive ways to discipline your child.
AND if you absolutely HAVE to spank … do it gently. Leaving welts is so not cool.
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I don’t beat up other people’s kids. (never once laid my hand on a child) ….. I can’t wait to have my own so i can torture them. *cries* J/K. xo
#25 by Big Woof on August 15th, 2009
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A spanking on the behind is the way I grew up. I still think it is acceptable when done for the proper reasons.
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#26 by ?MissMelonz? on August 15th, 2009
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Against it because you can’t expect to raise a well mannered child and teach them that violence is wrong if you hit them.
There are alot of other ways of punishing children that don’t involve abuse.
To the person below – I have 3 kids, I don’t hit them and they listen to me..All i have to do is start counting to 5 an they know they have to stop what there doing or the cartoons go off an they have to sit on their bed quietly until i say they can come out..works everytime!
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#27 by ?Sexi Pig in Suspenders? on August 15th, 2009
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I am sure you mean spanking . Nothing wrong spanking a kid when needed , hitting is a no-no .
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#28 by Unknown on August 15th, 2009
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for.. so that the child will stop doing whatever mistake he’s done
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#29 by John S on August 15th, 2009
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For and against. It has to be used very responsibly and under the right set of circumstances
Example A:
Bobby forgets to do his homework- hitting in a situation such as this is not necessary and totally out of line
Example B:
Bobby is severely misbehaving, talking back to you, cursing at you, throwing things at you, disrespecting your authority…. this calls for him to "learn his lesson" but it must be reasonable… smacks on the behind, wrist are acceptable. Getting a crowbar and screaming "All right Bobby thats it!" would be overdoing it.
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me, the many beatings I received from my father
#30 by Teresette on August 15th, 2009
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Against. They are not animals. And how do you think the child will feel? They will cry, not only because it hurts on the skin, but it hurts them that their parents, whom they thought loved them, would hit them. I’ve been hit before, and that made me even more rebellious. Why resort to violence?
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Childhood experience
#31 by Peta on August 15th, 2009
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against it just makes the child resent the parents for their power over them and leads to more destructive behaiviour for the child to learn what the parents will tolerate so they know what they will and wont get into trouble for. or the more naughty they are the easier the parent will give up lol.
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#32 by Mad as a Cat in a Bomber Jacket on August 15th, 2009
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Against. Violence breeds violence. My Grandfather was a sadistically violent person, who hit his sons & daughters with the buckle part of his belt. As a child I was hit by my father, sometimes for no reason at all. When my son was born I vowed to break the cycle of violence & talking to & reasoning with a child is far more effective than lashing out at them. They only resent authority more & trust & respect is lost.
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#33 by 4rgum3nt on August 15th, 2009
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I think of hitting children sort of like the use of military force.
Sometimes all other forms of discipline do not work, that is when you need to hit/spank a child.
Things like if your child hits another child for no reason other than fighting, or steals from you – can deserve a good administering of a strong hand on their backside.
But for all offenses, you need to talk with your children so they understand what they are doing wrong. And sometimes you need to punish them suitably (not all the time, just enough that they understand there are consequences from you as well as their actions).
For example if they are calling someone names, they need to understand that it is wrong, and be removed from the social environment (sent to their room to play, or to eat in the kitchen alone etc.) for a set time so they can think about treating other people correctly.
It is harder with things like lies and tattling, because a lot of adults do not understand why they are wrong. But when disciplining a child you should always be thinking about what sort of person you are trying to form in them.
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#34 by argmyidideasaretaken on August 15th, 2009
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Not often, just if they are disrespectful teenagers, if they hit you first, or if they’re crying because you won’t get them a stupidly expensive pointless thing that they want so badly even though they only just found out it existed three seconds ago and will be interested in for the whole of five minutes (don’t you hate seeing that in stores, where a mother is dragging them past?)
Sometimes, it seems like all they’ll respond to. (Spoken as a teenager who can’t stand seeing kids like this. Especially other teenagers.)
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#35 by Miss Milo on August 15th, 2009
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against.
my dad slapped in front of the school headteacher.
the teacher didn’t do anything, and said "Lets carry on."
my dad hits me really hard on the cheek and sometimes when i’m sitting on a high chair . i fall off and the chair falls off too, and sometimes on top of me. it hurts. the chair is actually very heavy.
my mom used to hit me with the end of a duster on the sides of my body, like at the waist part. that was when i was small, and she did it everytime i got a maths question wrong. i guess she thought that it was really stupid for me to get easy math questions wrong, but i should really blame her for not understanding that i was small and only learning.
she used to tell me to stick my hand out and when i did, she’d slap it. and sometimes use the end of the duster stick to hit it. it hurt a lot too.
other times she would just tell me to slap myself, and if i didn’t slap myself hard enough, she’d slap me really hard across the face.
sometimes she would take out the large butcher knife and tell me to kill myself. only not really meaning it, but trying to make me feel bad, obviously. she’d say things like "you’re so stupid, you don’t deserve to live."
oh, and i also remember when i was 3 years old living back in our old apartment. she’d hit me and i’d cry, only she would think that her slaps didn’t hurt. they Hurt because i was only 3 and had soft skin . like you know how babies cry if you pinch them? yeah.
those years of my toddlerhood she would also drag me out of the apartment, and lock me outside for a really long time. i remember one time she dragged me out and my eyes were blurry from crying and i tripped down the stairs in the building. it hurt really bad, and it seemed like forever i was just lying down there on the bottom of the stairs.
these days i’m 15 and she knows that i can fight her back.
anyway, my dad, he’s done a lot to me these past few years . he slaps a lot harder than my mom. it’s mainly about my schoolwork and education crap. he’s hit me and made myself knock my head really hard on a window many times, and i’ve run away a lot of times after getting beaten up .
i’m done. for those of you who are for hitting a child in order to discipline i really feel shame for you.
it simply proves that you cannot think of words to tell them what’s wrong and what’s right. It also says that you let your anger out on other people, and whats more important, your own child. hit a punching bag or something.
if i ever have a child, i would never lay a hand on them. sure, it’s just little red marks that come and go , but the inner scars stay forever.
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#36 by ?Someone buy me roses? I <3 M on August 15th, 2009
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Not HITTING but spanking… I will NEVER hit or slap my children.
I’m for spanking… Children can eaisly deal with no video games and TV… and being sent to their room where all their toys are??? please… I’m glad my parents spanked me when I was little…. and I’ll make sure to thank them when I move out in 2 years
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#37 by Smoking in the Boys Room on August 15th, 2009
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why do you have to slap/hit the child to get your point across? that only makes them realize "hey if i do that, mom is gonna slap me". really do you want your child to fear you?
most of the time when a child does something that you think is wrong, they’re trying to get your attention. give it to them, but not in a mean way
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#38 by JooHee? on August 15th, 2009
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Against.
I mean, i know God says that if you discipline your child, it’s a way of showing you love them. But do you really have to use physical abuse for that?
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