Do you advocate spankings? I do not have any kids, but I’m not entirely sure how I would discipline my future children. Some people say talk to your child or give them timeout, etc., but those tactics do not work all of the time. Do you believe spanking help reinforce discipline? Spankings would be my last alternative, thus, I enjoy trying to resolve a nuisance in a civil manner, but I believe I will inevitably have to face that castigating route.
Ill have to say this. Timeouts don’t work for everything. Talking doesn’t work for everything. Spankings don’t work for everything. Taking things away don’t work for everything. Which is why I use a variety of these. If my daughter is outside playing and she’s being mean to her sister or other kids. Ill make her sit on the step and not 0play for a couple of minutes. Works jus fine. If she says a bad word I will talk to her and tell her that she does not need to talk like like that works fine. If she’s constantly ignoring my instruction after everything has failed I will whoop some asses. If she throws a tantrum because I got her something she wanted but it wasn’t n the color she wanted I take that sh!t right back where I bought. U jus gotta use what’s appropriate for the offense. The problem is parents thinking that only 1 way is the right way for every wrong doing which jus ain’t it. U better believe I will not b sittin my daughter in a corner for supergluing her baby sisters hair down to her head. Oh no that warrants an azz whooping.
Hope that helps
#1 by mint_virgo22 on August 29th, 2009
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that would depend on how your future children would turn out. for example, time out and spanking doesn’t really work for every child. another example, if your child is so addicted to tv/video games, taking away those privileges would be effective.
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#2 by Leesha on August 29th, 2009
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NO SPANKINGS. That’s child abuse; or should be counted as child abuse.
I’m sure your kids won’t be rebellious. You just have to raise them right.
But for discipline, I’d have to say. . .mabe grounding them. Not letting them leave heir room?
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#3 by Dave on August 29th, 2009
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Hit the living daylight out of them, then they’ll never mess around.
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personal experience.
#4 by Lauren on August 29th, 2009
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My parents spanked my brother and I, and I will spank my kids. You have to give a spanking properly though. You can’t spank them out of anger. You have to talk to them calmly about what they’ve done. You need to let them know you love them. It’s an important process, and it has to been done right or you won’t get through to them.
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#5 by Just Another Poet on August 29th, 2009
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Sure spank them. then after they settle down talk to them about what they did and tell them ur not happy with it oh and timeouts are stupid…i was put in a time out once and i just thought it was stupid because i could still see the tv i could still listen to the radio from another room i could still look out the window and mess with people so i didnt take it serious so timeouts are dumb and stand up to ur kids i hate when parents back down to them and if u have a kid who grows up to be a rebellious class clown who likes making people laugh whatever u do..DO NOT laugh or ignore them when they try to talk to u in a serious mood even if they say a joke they will never want to talk to u about anything….btw im only 16 and has been called a cunning humble sociopath…so yea..i no
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#6 by Tiffaniefulness :) on August 29th, 2009
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if you spank them, make sure it doesn’t do much more than freak them out. And if they are acting up you need to explain the situation to them and make sure they understand. it helps when you crouch down so that you can make better eye contact and they can see your face, to know that you mean business. and when i say "explain the situation" i mean like ‘if you dont quit doing this, then you wont get (whatever) later" orrr that they’ll get timeout. and when you give them timeout’s dont give in, if they start screaming or something. eventually they’ll learn.
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babysitting experience, watching my mom discipline my siblings, etc.
#7 by Nickie Mossman on August 29th, 2009
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biblically speaking, it said,"Spare the rod and spoil the child…" I spank my child but before I do so, I would first tell her that what she did was wrong and I would tell her why. If she does it again I would make her feel that I am not happy about it because she didn’t listen to me. I would give her a final warning that if she does it again, I would give her some spanking. If she does it again, I make sure that I give her the spanking to let her know that I really mean business. Then after a couple of minutes, I would talk to her and ask her why I spanked her and that is one way of making the child realize that you didn’t spank her for no reason. Sometimes, I would ask my wife to talk to her to make her realize what she has done and to tell the kid to apologize to me. That way, you are also teaching your child humility. Once the child admits his mistake and apologizes to you, tell him you forgive him and also explain that you didn’t want to spank him but you just want him to grow into a good person.
By the way, disciplining a child is from ages 1 to 7. If you ignore disciplining your child after this ages, they will be having those bad attitudes for the rest of their lives.
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advice from my child psychologist
#8 by jane on August 29th, 2009
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i was spanked as a child and i spank my kids when they need it
i only spank as a last resort or for the most serious misbehaviour
timeout, groundings, losing toys/internet/videogames work wonders but when my kids dont get the point then they will earn a trip over my knee
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#9 by JOKER on August 29th, 2009
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This is tough. Physical discipline is only effective when the child understands the reason for it. Teach them their are consequences. At first they are afraid of getting hit but after awhile they start being cautious out in the world. Luckily I was disciplined and NOT abused, Their is a very thin line between the two. I know it’s not always effective to have a FUll House moment where you sit Stephany and DJ down for a family moment. However when you talk to them like a person and not a child THEY DO understand. No matter how dense they may seem
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#10 by Beach Blonde (Mother of 3) on August 30th, 2009
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No, I mean seriously, when you spank your child is he/she really learning a lesson? No, they are learning that instead of talking something out, you should use violence. And that is totally incorrect. I do agree with you, that timeouts and talks do not work all the time, but a serious talk, with an attitude that is appropriate for the situation, will most likely put them on the right track. The only way your kids will learn to listen to you, is if they are mature and can learn to handle a mature conversation. So it’s your job as a parent to raise them as understanding kids, and the consequences come on the way. A talk, a timeout (when they are young) might just do the trick!
EDIT: Although spaking might teach them not to mess around, it can also be seen as child abuse, and these days just about anyone can go to jail for that, so you should stay on the safe side.
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Mother of 3 beautifu,l but sometimes bad kids =)
#11 by Laurie on August 30th, 2009
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Time out is a joke, nothing works as good as the old-fashioned spanking.
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#12 by jen on August 30th, 2009
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I use the method of taking toys and objects they like as a ground then it avoids the spanking
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#13 by jj on August 30th, 2009
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Ill have to say this. Timeouts don’t work for everything. Talking doesn’t work for everything. Spankings don’t work for everything. Taking things away don’t work for everything. Which is why I use a variety of these. If my daughter is outside playing and she’s being mean to her sister or other kids. Ill make her sit on the step and not 0play for a couple of minutes. Works jus fine. If she says a bad word I will talk to her and tell her that she does not need to talk like like that works fine. If she’s constantly ignoring my instruction after everything has failed I will whoop some asses. If she throws a tantrum because I got her something she wanted but it wasn’t n the color she wanted I take that sh!t right back where I bought. U jus gotta use what’s appropriate for the offense. The problem is parents thinking that only 1 way is the right way for every wrong doing which jus ain’t it. U better believe I will not b sittin my daughter in a corner for supergluing her baby sisters hair down to her head. Oh no that warrants an azz whooping.
Hope that helps
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#14 by Alex on August 30th, 2009
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it depends on how mature their thought processes are. i was a rebel and i got spanked. then when i was big enough, it stopped and we resorted to debate and conversation. that would not have worked earlier as i was too naive to understand the whole cause and effect thing. people may say never spank but seriously, i sustained much harsher injuries that i caused myself than when getting spanked (plus for a while there i would wear extra underwear until i got caught, ha)
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#15 by K N on August 30th, 2009
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You will have to experience it to know what works for the child. Some respond to physical punishment while others respond better to timeouts and reasoning. Whatever the methods used, it must be followed by an explaination to the child what the punishment was for. And also to reinforce that mummy and daddy does not condone such behaviour but still loves the child. There is a need to seperate the person from the deed so that the child will know that the parents are not angry with him but his actions.
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