I just want to see what everyone thinks in regards to discipline.
For parents do you spank your child? How do you cope when your child acts out in public? What methods work for you?
This is for serious answers only please. Thank you.
Well i’m not a parent but I don’t believe in spanking children. What are they going to learn? Nothing because the pain is going to be so bad that they are going to forget what happened. I have a god daughter and whenever she acts out in public I ignore her. I listen to her, explain to her why she doesn’t need whatever she wants, tell her own plans for the day (so she’ll know that what she wants has nothing to do with our day) and keep on walking. She cries which I hate but kids want everything.
I believe if you talk to them, ask them questions, wait for their answer and explain to them why or the consequences they will get it then they won’t get so out of control.
#1 by babyde11 on September 1st, 2009
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In public??? Umm…we’ve all probably seen women or men spank their kids in public… not such a good idea. It’s kind of tramatizing to children
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#2 by Precious on September 1st, 2009
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I save a light spank on the hand for an emergency or important lesson, like no running out into the street or no touching the hot stove. My daughter is only 2 1/2 years old and I haven’t been strict with her. I am starting to do the 1-2-3, and pull her away from the activity I don’t want her to do. She understands. If she is really having a tough time in public, we will leave the area, or even go back home.
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#3 by shhhh_j on September 1st, 2009
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Well i’m not a parent but I don’t believe in spanking children. What are they going to learn? Nothing because the pain is going to be so bad that they are going to forget what happened. I have a god daughter and whenever she acts out in public I ignore her. I listen to her, explain to her why she doesn’t need whatever she wants, tell her own plans for the day (so she’ll know that what she wants has nothing to do with our day) and keep on walking. She cries which I hate but kids want everything.
I believe if you talk to them, ask them questions, wait for their answer and explain to them why or the consequences they will get it then they won’t get so out of control.
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#4 by Holly G on September 1st, 2009
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Whatever form of discipline you use you have to be consistint and follow thru every time. Otherwise the kids learn very quickly your just bluffing. I have three children and by the time I had no. 3 I finally have one that listens to me. Not all of the time, no child is perfect but the majority of the time if I say something he knows I mean business. Spanking should not be used as a form of punishment it only makes your child angry if you have to discipline physically make sure its an offensive that actually warrants it. Time out works!
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#5 by Lyn.N on September 1st, 2009
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I do spank occasionally, more so the younger ones, but very occasionally the older ones need a spanking instead of the usual deterrents.
If we happen to be out and about when they’re acting up I just give them a swat on the bum and remind them what’s in store when they get home if they act the way they are.
Even if I’m not going to spank a swat or two works wonders for getting their attention. You should see how my oldest reacts to it.
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#6 by kelly e on September 1st, 2009
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I have to say that I don’t think my children ever acted out in public – but it’s also been a long time – (13, 11 and
I was blessed with kids who threw very few tantrums – my son went through a period of a ‘flip out’ if you could not read his mind and did something before he said or went to do it – but it lasted a very short time (he was 3 as I always thought 3 was a tough age not 2)….
I have hardly spanked our kids – I just found it to be demeaning and why should a big person hit a little person.
I now threaten "if this happens again" and take what they love most away – I have to say this works for us -
but every child is different as is every parents methods -
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