I have a 3 year old son, and I am having problems with discipline. I was wondering what form of discipline that everyone uses and how effective it is. I also am curious as to what ways to discipline him while we are at the grocery store or any other store for that matter. Leaving the store isn’t an option, as that is what he would prefer.
Thank you in advance
~Stacia
#1 by Kate H on October 2nd, 2011
Quote
If you are at home ~ put him on the steps for the amount of age he is ( it would be 3 minutes becasue he is 3 years old) if you do not have anysteps just put him on the couch for 3 minutes with the TV off, computer off, and all toys and books put away. also you might want to leave the room too…
if you are at the store ~ Tell him that you will buy him a prize if he behaves
this alwasy works!
#2 by tera on October 2nd, 2011
Quote
We mainly use time out. If our daughter is really thrwoing a fit then she gets sent to her room. But even in public I have had to use timeout. I find a bench or chair and make her sit in it for a couple of minutes and then talk to her about why she was put there. Then we are able to finish our shopping trip. I have had several people tell me that I was doing a good job. I think dealing with the problem right then rather than bringing it up again later is best. Children have a limited memory for naughty things and it’s not fair to punish them later for something that happened hours ago.
#3 by Betty Boop on October 2nd, 2011
Quote
I have spanked my toddler, but he has a diaper on, so it doesn’t hurt him. But it hurts his feelings and he always gives me a hug after. He bit me on the bum the other night and I slapped his mouth (not really hard). He was more shocked than anything, I told him it was not nice to bite and it hurt mommy. He hugged me and hasn’t tried to bite again. Time out doesn’t work for a 22 month old, but maybe for a 3 year old. I know you have to be consistant. Don’t ask…”Do you want to go on time out?” Cuz they don’t. You threaten once, and then follow through. If not they will walk all over you.
#4 by mamamia on October 2nd, 2011
Quote
i used a time out chair facing away from the tv, one min per age of the child. it worked.
#5 by beach answerer on October 2nd, 2011
Quote
one of the things i used in public was “stand on a spot” time outs.
id put him in a square on the tile floor of the grocery store and make him stand there for a minute or two while i looked at something, not paying any attention to him.
ive also done timeouts in the car, on benches, and with a nose in the corner of a concrete pillar at an outdoor outlet mall.
when he would misbehave in the store i would also always stop whatever i was doing and make him apologize for whatever behavior he was exhibiting.
at a mall or something you could make him hold hands if he isnt being good. if he wants to walk by himself, he has to listen. otherwise id hold his hand even if he had a fit while doing so.
when one of my kids is acting up I remind myself “one of us is going to win this. its going to be me. im not going to lose.” it reminds me to be consistent and follow through.
good luck!!
#6 by Michelle D on October 2nd, 2011
Quote
Google “social stories”. Sandbox learning and Carol Gray are good places to start. Good luck…