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• #1 by In love? on November 8th, 2009

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  Redirection:)

  More detailed info
  http://babyparenting.about.com/od/discipline/qt/redirection.htm

  EDIT: I give my kids choices. Either they can do it their self or I can help them. You would be surprised on how well this works with toddlers and up. They want to be independent and don’t want "help". example: If we are in the store and my daughter has a little fit and throws something on the ground, I say "Kylie you have a choice. You can pick that up yourself, or I can help you. One, two, three" I almost never have to reach three before she is doing what I asked. If I do get to three I physically grab both of her hands(not hard or mean in anyway), make her pick it up and tell her "good job, thanks for helping". Kids like doing things themselves and don’t like being helped. It works for me in every situation. You just have to follow though and the ‘choices’ all have to be the same end result. It cant be like "You have a choice. You can clean up your toys or you can go to time out." That isn’t the same end result. The time out doesn’t get the toys cleaned up. You might have to physically help the child clean up the toys a couple times before they get it but they will get it. Oh and no yelling. You can have a firm tone but raising your voice isn’t necessary:)

  Good luck with your school project!
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• #2 by redeat on November 8th, 2009

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  well posotive i guess would be to not yell but use a firm voice tell the kid u dnt like what he/she did and to please stop or will be consequences
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• #3 by Candy on November 8th, 2009

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  I think if you listen to your children, connect with them, explain the rationale of your decisions to them, it is half the job done. There is an excellent book called How to talk so kids will listen and how to listen so kids will talk by Faber and Mazlish (may have mis spelt the author names here – pls check). Good communication is I think the crux of it – and not just when you want to discipline them. If you all round talk to them, listen to them, understand them, explain yourself, your actions and feelings about things to them, it makes for a good disciplining strategy. You have to say no to them, kids actually like some boundaries. I have almost never had to punish my child so I can’t say what wd be the best way..

  ya most of all love them unconditionally and be there for them as much as possible yet let them grow and make their own decisions as well as mistakes.
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• #4 by Chiquita on November 8th, 2009

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  buy the book Parenting for Dummies
  looks like you need to read it
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