i just want to know how everyone feels about discipline when it comes to children. do you believe in spanking(not beating) just spatting or do you think it isnt right. i grew up with it so….
I believe in spanking. Nowadays, kids are getting time out and stuff like that, but they aren’t improving at all. I’m not saying spanking actually improves kids. I know that a simple spanking doesn’t cause any longterm emotional or physical damage. Just look at all the older adults who were spanked when they were little. They aren’t all bad people just because they were spanked. Kids are worse nowadays than they ever were. Maybe it’s because most people don’t spank their kids anymore. 
#1 by fungusbrains1 on October 16th, 2009
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Natural consequences
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#2 by Bronwyn on October 16th, 2009
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Spanking (without anger and power behind it) is definitely OK! (and necessary) If you spank with anger though, that is not right.
Sometimes spanking is the only way to get "the attention" of the child. Use it only when necessary.
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#3 by littlefootshakespeare on October 16th, 2009
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I think the lack of spanking is why kids are so f**ked up these days. and teaching in ohio schools that if you are spanked to call the cops is bullsh**.
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we were spanked as kids and turned out pretty damn good.
#4 by Bookworm on October 16th, 2009
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I believe in spanking. Nowadays, kids are getting time out and stuff like that, but they aren’t improving at all. I’m not saying spanking actually improves kids. I know that a simple spanking doesn’t cause any longterm emotional or physical damage. Just look at all the older adults who were spanked when they were little. They aren’t all bad people just because they were spanked. Kids are worse nowadays than they ever were. Maybe it’s because most people don’t spank their kids anymore.
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#5 by luvfastcars0260 on October 16th, 2009
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i think its good you spank them because you love them and want to teach them right from wrong.good luck
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#6 by samy'smom on October 16th, 2009
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No spanking, it only teaches them regression and negative behavior. Natural consequences are good. I personally feel that timeouts should also be meant to take the child away from the difficult situation but not a punishment. Positive reinforcement makes you and your child feel better.
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#7 by potato on October 16th, 2009
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lol, this is a rather funny topic in our home, first off the punishment needs to not only fit the crime per say, but the age of the child as well. I quick smack on the back side at first was something we did, and decided against it. We no have the perfect consequent to ALL things and it works guilt free.
Sit-ups
Huh you say, but check this out, lets say child "a" has lied about something, they got caught….there are many avenues to go down for what should be done, but sit-ups is the long lasting one. Child "A" does 5 sit-ups per age of life, so a 5 year old would do 25 sit-ups, after a while move the scale up on the amount, but always be consistent in what your doing. At the very least they are getting some good healthy exercise out of it and your guilt free for what they are doing, as they need to know before hand that this is what is going to happen.
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#8 by isjarnez on October 16th, 2009
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Honey let me tell you old school all the way. Oh course spank that booty. Then afterward I sit down with my child and explain the reasons or reason for my actions. I find this is best you can’t just spank and have no other action about it. It also gives your child the opportunity to talk with you. Seems like they always have a tendeny to open and tell you more about what they did wrong and what lead to it. Then you can re-encourage them of more positive behavior and actions. I also feel you spare the rod you spoil the child and where’s the lesson to be learned in that.
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#9 by Sandy on October 16th, 2009
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spanking is good beating is not
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#10 by jacky on October 16th, 2009
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spanking innocent defenseless children is sick. I’m a mother of 3 boys and i have proven that u can avoid spanking and have well behaved perfect children.
by the way when your child is grown up he can beat u back (i hope it will happen to all parents who were beating their children)
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#11 by celticwoman1953 on October 16th, 2009
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The poem Children Learn What They Live, by Dorothy Law Nolte, has great wisdom in it. I believe that if we hit a child for discipline, no matter how lightly, that they will become confused when we tell them to not hit others. Here’s the poem.
Children Learn What They Live
by Dorothy Law Nolte
If a child lives with criticism. He learns to condemn.
If a child lives with hostility. He learns to fight.
If a child lives with ridicule. He learns to be shy.
If a child lives with shame. He learns to feel guilty.
If a child lives with tolerance. He learns to be patient.
If a child lives with encouragement. He learns confidence.
If a child lives with praise. He learns to appreciate.
If a child lives with fairness. He learns justice.
If a child lives with security. He learns to have faith.
If a child lives with approval. He learns to like himself.
If a child lives with acceptance and friendship.
He learns to find love in the world.
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http://www.scrapbook.com/poems/doc/1559/14.html