Whether you use spanking or timeouts, when do you punish? I mean how do you determine “naughty” behavior as opposed to normal “toddler” behavior? My daughter is one and she doesn’t listen. She fights to change her diaper. Isn’t this normal behavior for her age? Do I put her on timeout for fighting and running away when she needs a diaper change? GHow do you know when to punish and when not to?
#1 by Waiting On Baby # 2 Due 10-6-09 on October 6th, 2011
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well the diaper thing and the not listening is normal behavior i put my son in time out only when he bites pinches or hits some one im trying to break those habits early btw he is 15 months old
#2 by lynno on October 6th, 2011
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It is really a personal decision that a parent has to make on their own. I have a 23 month old son who does not like to listen. He hates having his diaper changed, and has started telling me to “leave diaper lone!” when I change him. Timeout sometimes works. But remember, one minute for every year of her age, otherwise they have no idea why they are in trouble. If the fighting is really bad, a small whack on her behind might be a good idea. Nothing hard, but she has to be able to feel it. Just remember that YOU are the parent. It is hard to do sometimes, I know, but it can be done.
#3 by Cecili C on October 6th, 2011
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I use redirection. If it something than can be life threatening, I may pat his hand or swat his rear. Usually, I can get him to stop misbehaving by distracting him with something else. Either removing him from the situation or giving him a toy. Your daughter, developmentally, is not capable of understanding right and wrong. She is supposed to be curious of her world and you need to let her explore-you need to keep her safe at the same time. Let her pull books off the bottom shelve and carry cups and bowls around. Let her hide your cell phone behind the chair…….. Read Positive Discipline. It is a great book and help you guide your baby into being a great toddler.
#4 by Georgie's Momma on October 6th, 2011
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When they are so young like that, most of their behavior is normal. I say the best discipline is positive reinforcement and praise. My daughter is 15 months and she fights me when I try to change her diaper, and she runs away from me when she has something I don’t want her to have. These things are normal though and you don’t want to over punish because they need to do most of these things for development. That being said, toddlers need guidance. I have never used a time out, because I don’t know how to facilitate one. My daughter does not listen to no either. The thing that works best to improve her behavior is to ignore most of her negative behaviors such as tantrums and screaming and to praise her with positive words and applause when she behaves nicely and does what I ask. When it comes to fighting during diaper changes, try to distract her and make it fun. Sing a song or give her a book to look at. That usually works for my daughter. Lastly, these are just suggestions. You can use whatever discipline methods you want and that work for you.
#5 by *Pink*Greed* on October 6th, 2011
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I have a 16 month old boy and a 5 year old girl. I think it depends on you and your parenting style but I didn’t start the timeouts til my daughter was 2 but I totally know where you’re coming from cause my son is already giving me attitude. When he acts like that I don’t spank him but I will give him a tap on the butt (over his diaper and usually pants) or a small slap on the hand to let him know that I mean business.
#6 by Sarah and Jack on October 6th, 2011
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That is completely normal behavior for a toddler. At such a young age there really shouldn’t be any discipline. They are too young to understand time out and they are too young for a spanking. Occupy them with a toy or a song or talk to them while you are changing their diaper.