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• #1 by CB - La Quinta on July 17th, 2010

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  This is an absolutely wonderful book that produced results in my home within 2 days! The other reviewers expressed that Dr. Rosemond is advocating spanking and child abuse! He clearly states that “I am not advocating spanking” so I do not know what book these folks read but it wasnt this one. I find that I constantly refer to the term “Post Modern Psychobabble” on a weekly basis. I actually starting reading this book a few weeks before my 6 year old sons teacher expressed her in “professional” opinion that my son was ADHD! My husband and I were blown away by this because she had only known him for 2 months and only had 14 students in her class. 5 of the students were “diagnosed” by her as ADHD. When we told her that she was wrong and that she needed to get a hold of her classroom and show authority when dealing with my child she agreed to try. By the end of the school year, she came to me and apologized and said that after we pointed out to her that he was trying to push her buttons and only needed her to act in an authoritave way with him that she saw nothing but wonderful behavior from him. You see, he has never been a behaviorial problem for any other teacher nor for us at home because we apply the principles of respect for God, Family and community. The funny thing is that one of the reasons she based her “diagnosis” was the fact the at Art time he became disruptive because he does not like art (none of us in the family are artistic), however, I told her that with his love of reading she should give him a book on Van Gogh or something of the sort. She followed suit and realized that he has a great ammount of art appreciation. You see, we as a society have decided that the over stressed teachers must be right and a majority of us tend to run out and put our children on some sort of medication for fear of what people will think of us and our children. I write this review specifically for those parents who question those who suggest your child has ADD or ADHD. I am not saying there are children who dont need meds, but if you are in the slightest of doubt, please purchase and read this book and give it a few months of its applications, you may see a difference in your child/or teacher. Make sure that you stand up for your children, teachers and administrators are not the authority, God is!
  Rating: 5 / 5

• #2 by Kate D. Smith on July 17th, 2010

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  First of all, it is very clear that most, if not all, of the 1 star reviewers either did not read this book or are just John Rosemond haters who assume his books do nothing but condone spanking. This could not be farther from the truth. If you are considering buying this book and don’t know anything about John Rosemond, then visit his website: http://www.rosemond.com. If you look under the “About John” section, there is a position statement on spanking. READ IT if that is of concern to you. Then you will see how full of baloney these people are who are spitting venom at him because he respects the right of parents to discipline as they see fit.
  
  I thought this was a well-written book that brought to light many of the problems with the post-modern psychological parenting model. One need not look too far to see frustrated parents running ragged because of out-of-control children. Is it that difficult to admit that children are generally ill-mannered these days with little to no respect for authority? That being said, isn’t it a good thing to find someone who offers an alternative if a family feels they need one?
  
  If you don’t like John Rosemond, then parent your children as you see fit and don’t read his books. But why should you try to persuade someone to not check something out that might really help their family just because you have an agenda? I am raising two children, and I find that when I apply Rosemond’s advice, I discipline calmly and I stay in control. I’m guessing that most child-abusers do the exact opposite: They LOSE control. That is something Rosemond tries to help parents keep from doing.
  
  So I personally recommend this book to those who are frustrated with their current parenting philosophy and want to make a change. But if you are an attachment parent, then don’t read it. You won’t find what you’re looking for here. It’s as simple as that.
  Rating: 4 / 5

• #3 by B. Collins on July 17th, 2010

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  Sorry that so many other reviewers didn’t take time to actually read this book. Or perhaps it’s that they are offended by what God says. The Bible says many will turn away from wisdom and listen to others say just what they want to hear. Read the book – and the Bible. Get the facts. (Lost one star because he tends to go on long about some issues I thought he could have taken less time on.)
  
  BTW, I, too, was lovingly disciplined as a child (in the 60s no less!) by kind, caring parents who spanked me when needed (not too often), then followed up with hugs and a good discussion about what I’d done wrong and what I could do to avoid same in the future. I love them and appreciate them for it today. Abuse is not discipline, and discipline is not abuse. Love protects, sometimes by discipline. Fear or rejection leads many parents to abuse their children by letting them run wild. Those children learn only that mom and dad are weak and afraid of them. Children want guidelines and proof that their parents care enough to follow through with discipline if rules are broken. Too-soft parents lead to “ADHD” afflicted chilren with behavioral problems.
  Rating: 4 / 5

• #4 by J. Sutterfield on July 17th, 2010

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  Much wisdom for raising healthy kids/grandkids; shows the need to go back to THE Book and not all of today’s pop philosophy. Highly recommended to any parent.
  Rating: 5 / 5

• #5 by Dawn J. Doxey on July 17th, 2010

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  I found this book very helpful, If applied right there is no harm done and the child will look up to you. If applied wrong yes there could be damage that is why you need to use the Lord in your life also and prayer. This book helped me so much, and in applying all that was taught I found out there were some disorders in one of my children, Praise God! for directing us to this book to help us to understand the ways of the Lord, better. You have to do the work! Not just spank the child! You have to use The ways of the Lord, not just throw out punishment! God will follow through if you follow him. NO one is perfect and we all make mistakes, I think this was a awesome book and now I have older children that want this book also so I am ordering it for my older children that have children. Thanks John Rosemond for this book! Dawn D
  Rating: 5 / 5