Why is it that the law requires people to take parenting classes before they become a foster parent, but..
When a couple is expecting a biological child, the law doesn’t require them to take any classes.
That sounds one-sided to me; shouldn’t all soon-to-be-parents be held to the same standards?
Why are temporary parents required to do stuff that permanent parents dont have to do?
I would think that permanent parents should have higher standards.
Why do the temporary parents have higher standards?
#1 by bluej83 on May 21st, 2010
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No because a foster parent is a “temporary parent” while a blood parent is a permnant parent. Adoptions rules are more stricter than just having your own kid. Nope unless they abuse their blood child then you have to get a court order for that.
#2 by waia2000 on May 21st, 2010
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Biology does not stand aside for legalities, unfortunately.
It would be great if there were some kind of lessons, but then you get into the problem of who does the teaching and what gets taught. There are a lot of sticky issues involved.
#3 by Fireball on May 21st, 2010
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love is more natural with your own flesh….govt is being careful….not much required to marry either compared to driving..
#4 by joanaporter on May 21st, 2010
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You can stop the foster parent thing. You can’t stop the blood parent thing except through forced abortion.
#5 by reallypablo on May 21st, 2010
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There is a fundamental right to have children (assuming you are biologically able to do so), just as there is a fundamental right to marry. There is no fundamental right to adopt, so reasonable standards and procedures may be implemented by the state.
#6 by Bob on May 21st, 2010
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Unfortunately this is the case. Civil libertarians would scream if such a concept was proposed, but in truth it is any damn fool who can create a child. Any dull witted drone can become a parent, while the state wants saints only. This is because the state needs some backup to lean on when a child is abused or hurt by a foster parent, so they can say, “We tried to screen these people before entrusting the child to them….” Giving them excuses when they do place a child into an abusive situation.
Birth parents however can keep getting pregnant even AFTER they abuse a child. Mandatory sterilization should happen for any man or woman who abuses an innocent child.
#7 by Bondage. James Bondage on May 21st, 2010
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i’m assuming u mean adopting parents? apparently only adopting parents can molest their kids. seriously, i agree that it is a double standard but i think the false logic behind it is that they want less people “pulling a woody allen” if you will. (people who want to raise their own spouse and marry them. and you can’t marry blood relatives). but yeah if you are talking about foster parents, it’s usually because sadly, the kids/teens have been abused and the state/whoever doesn’t want those being fostered exposed to the same, if not worse, abuse.
on a side note, i think those who have served in the military should take parenting classes. you do not raise a kid the same way you train a soldier. (my dad was in the military) every military parent i have met has always been too strict/overbearing. lots of yelling/verbal abuse. trying to militarize the child rather than parent them.