He is a great kid. He just doesn’t have any drive to do things on his own. He is getting F’s in school because of not turning assignments in and late work, and I don’t think he cares. How can we teach him self discipline and to have that drive to do it on his own?
He has been in baseball and didn’t like it cause anything that loses it’s fun and becomes anything like work he doesn’t like it anymore. He was in soccer and likes that.
We have grounded him from everything. His grades improve.. gets off grounding then his grades go down again.
#1 by TRISHA on March 27th, 2011
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Sounds like he needs a hobbie! Find him something he enjoys and sign him up! sports do amazing things for children!
#2 by pac man eats babys on March 27th, 2011
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beat the fuck out of him
#3 by Ashley M on March 27th, 2011
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Ground him from friends and computers and/or video games until his grades improve
#4 by Rofl boxxy :3 on March 27th, 2011
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a dog? some pet? A MONGOOSE!!!! :3
let him care for it
lol grounding him for getting bad grades would be a start though
#5 by luvmy4boyz on March 27th, 2011
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Maybe have talks with him about his future, Ask him what he wants to do in the future, what kind of career does he want, does he want a family, friends etc…? If he answers yes to any of these then ask him how he plans to get to that point. Have set some goals they can be little goals to start with such as bringing one of his grades up. Tell him to just try it and see how it makes him feel to set a goal, work hard to reach it and then accomplish that. Talk to him about his future and life and how he has one chance to live his life and there are many paths he can take which will lead him down different roads and will determine what kind of life he lives. Try to explain to him that it’s up to him to make good choices so that he can have a good life.
I have talks about this sort of thing with my boys all the time since they were younger. Kids don’t just think about this stuff on their own, they think in the here and now. It’s up to you to get him mind wrapped around his future and what he wants to do with it.
I think the first step like I said is having him set small goals and trying hard to reach them. Maybe it’s cleaning his room every other day on his own without being told. That is what self discipline means. It means you make good choices on your own without being told because you want to do the right things and you want to feel good about yourself.