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@Aprinsa Good point as I’m a loner also. What works for me is a slightly modified version of this. Example: for the longest time I have wanted to learn Spanish but couldn’t consistently muster up the self-discipline to study. I recently hired a tutor which has become my accountability partner. This has made a big difference in my studies. Other examples are group classes, work out partners, and activities which are scheduled.
Have you ever done the “accountability partner”? This is one of those pieces of advice that EVERYONE gives, but I find the notion strongly unappealing since I am kind of a loner and terrible at scheduling people into my life, and I am not sure that many people actually use this method since I almost never hear anyone talk about doing so. The only time I can think of was study buddies, and they were boyfriend and girlfriend, so not exactly what one can hope for.
This is one of the best videos I have seen for a long time. I am a strng Christian and believe that faith has a crucial role in life BUT practical self discipline is essential.
@jruizdemena ‘Ego’ discipline focuses on destination while ‘good’ discipline focuses on the journey. It’s future living vs living in the now. As you spend more time knowing thyself you will be able to easily distinguish between the two.
@TheLittleRussian2 as i see, wanting nothing means to be free of the many things we are used to: “good” relatinships, status, more money than needed…Self discipline is to set you free, self discipline to prepare yourself in order of not be trapped in attachment, desire, lazyness, blaming and to have the capacity to do what you really want. Self discipline is not for obtain more things or the so called success
i find difficulties on diferenciate beetween the discipline that make you grow , that make you a better person, that liberates you (we could call it “the good discipline”) from the discipline of ambition, the wanting to be better than, the overcoming this not accepted-self ( “the ego discipline”). I can explain the diference in words, but in live is like they mix each other
@TheLittleRussian2 Thank you for your honest response. The middle path is liberating. Living in the extreme is emotionally and physically exhausting. Not to mention the strain we cause those around us.
@vagabondsteve You’re right. I’m seeing things in black and white. I find it hard to understand that you can want less and discipline yourself more, since I associate discipline with wanting things – therefore I see strengthening self-discipline as surrenfering to desire. I probably see a problem where there isn’t one.
The middle path, you say? I’ve always felt like the middle path is a cheat and that the extreme way is the only one worth walking. It’s hard to stop thinking like this.
I must say there’s something that drives me mad. I have a trouble figuring out how the message of this video co-exists with the message of the “Wanting Nothing” video.
Thanks for the right video…just what I needed to be reminded about.
On the side, I wonder just how much of religion and politics is just a complicated, hyper-response to our need to discipline ourselves. The “father figure” is a metaphor for our inner state of self regulation.
Very true.
I assume that I need some sort of spiritual guidance when in reality, my issue is that I procrastinate and put things off.
Thank you for this video.
Great video! I’ve struggled with procrastination for a long time, but have really discovered that the saying “First we make our habits, then our habits make us” is so true. To slowly but surely creating good habits is now my way of overcoming procrastination.
Hi Steve,
again I know a lot of the stuff you are talking about. Want to have a look on my desk with all the paperwork to do, piles of paper to be sorted, CD’s to be cleared away… Have you also got an idea how I can fulfill my needs for tidyness, clarity and organization? Grettings, BBQ
#1 by vagabondsteve on November 22nd, 2010
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@Aprinsa Good point as I’m a loner also. What works for me is a slightly modified version of this. Example: for the longest time I have wanted to learn Spanish but couldn’t consistently muster up the self-discipline to study. I recently hired a tutor which has become my accountability partner. This has made a big difference in my studies. Other examples are group classes, work out partners, and activities which are scheduled.
#2 by Aprinsa on November 22nd, 2010
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Have you ever done the “accountability partner”? This is one of those pieces of advice that EVERYONE gives, but I find the notion strongly unappealing since I am kind of a loner and terrible at scheduling people into my life, and I am not sure that many people actually use this method since I almost never hear anyone talk about doing so. The only time I can think of was study buddies, and they were boyfriend and girlfriend, so not exactly what one can hope for.
#3 by philylennon on November 22nd, 2010
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That video was awsome man!! subscribed!
#4 by coyoacan73 on November 22nd, 2010
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This is one of the best videos I have seen for a long time. I am a strng Christian and believe that faith has a crucial role in life BUT practical self discipline is essential.
#5 by vagabondsteve on November 22nd, 2010
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@jruizdemena ‘Ego’ discipline focuses on destination while ‘good’ discipline focuses on the journey. It’s future living vs living in the now. As you spend more time knowing thyself you will be able to easily distinguish between the two.
#6 by jruizdemena on November 22nd, 2010
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@TheLittleRussian2 as i see, wanting nothing means to be free of the many things we are used to: “good” relatinships, status, more money than needed…Self discipline is to set you free, self discipline to prepare yourself in order of not be trapped in attachment, desire, lazyness, blaming and to have the capacity to do what you really want. Self discipline is not for obtain more things or the so called success
#7 by jruizdemena on November 22nd, 2010
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i find difficulties on diferenciate beetween the discipline that make you grow , that make you a better person, that liberates you (we could call it “the good discipline”) from the discipline of ambition, the wanting to be better than, the overcoming this not accepted-self ( “the ego discipline”). I can explain the diference in words, but in live is like they mix each other
#8 by vagabondsteve on November 22nd, 2010
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@TheLittleRussian2 Thank you for your honest response. The middle path is liberating. Living in the extreme is emotionally and physically exhausting. Not to mention the strain we cause those around us.
#9 by TheLittleRussian2 on November 22nd, 2010
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@vagabondsteve You’re right. I’m seeing things in black and white. I find it hard to understand that you can want less and discipline yourself more, since I associate discipline with wanting things – therefore I see strengthening self-discipline as surrenfering to desire. I probably see a problem where there isn’t one.
The middle path, you say? I’ve always felt like the middle path is a cheat and that the extreme way is the only one worth walking. It’s hard to stop thinking like this.
#10 by vagabondsteve on November 22nd, 2010
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@TheLittleRussian2 What specifically drives you mad? Perhaps you are seeing things in black and white. Balance or the Middle Path is the key.
#11 by TheLittleRussian2 on November 22nd, 2010
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I must say there’s something that drives me mad. I have a trouble figuring out how the message of this video co-exists with the message of the “Wanting Nothing” video.
#12 by 808kat808 on November 22nd, 2010
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I have an assignment due tomorrow that I haven’t started…
Thanks, I’m going now
#13 by seriall1337 on November 22nd, 2010
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Thanks for taking your time to help people, good video!
#14 by vagabondsteve on November 22nd, 2010
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@zentidoc See my video: “Keeping New Year’s Resolutions”.
#15 by zentidoc on November 22nd, 2010
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True THAT really an interesting issue how to overcome laziness? some comment
#16 by xicatli on November 22nd, 2010
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i have been waiting to hear this words for the past 10 years. Thank you Steve.
#17 by Chiiiiyo on November 22nd, 2010
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Thank you
#18 by FixingLunch on November 22nd, 2010
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i like this video. Nice analytical thoughts!
#19 by vagabondsteve on November 22nd, 2010
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@1zenAwhile I would say religion and politics is just a complicated way to control others.
#20 by 1zenAwhile on November 22nd, 2010
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Thanks for the right video…just what I needed to be reminded about.
On the side, I wonder just how much of religion and politics is just a complicated, hyper-response to our need to discipline ourselves. The “father figure” is a metaphor for our inner state of self regulation.
#21 by Sougen02 on November 22nd, 2010
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Very true.
I assume that I need some sort of spiritual guidance when in reality, my issue is that I procrastinate and put things off.
Thank you for this video.
#22 by vagabondsteve on November 22nd, 2010
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Thank you!
#23 by stianandre on November 22nd, 2010
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Great video! I’ve struggled with procrastination for a long time, but have really discovered that the saying “First we make our habits, then our habits make us” is so true. To slowly but surely creating good habits is now my way of overcoming procrastination.
Thanks for all the wonderful videos!
#24 by vagabondsteve on November 22nd, 2010
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Get rid of or organize 3 items per day. Do this consistently and you’ll be amazed with the results.
#25 by BBQ112 on November 22nd, 2010
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Hi Steve,
again I know a lot of the stuff you are talking about. Want to have a look on my desk with all the paperwork to do, piles of paper to be sorted, CD’s to be cleared away… Have you also got an idea how I can fulfill my needs for tidyness, clarity and organization? Grettings, BBQ