For example, your 10 & 13 year old keep on fighting, so you make them sit on the couch together for an hour holding hands not speaking to each, unless they are compliments.
Your 10 year old likes to talk back to you so you make them go jog around the block twice.
Any other creative ideas?
There's a few that works for me my sons have a problem cleaning there room sometimes and I used to get frustrated but now is there room is not cleaned no tv,nooutside,no dinner until the room is done.When I would ask my kids why they did something wrong they would say I dont know but it's funny because when it's time to play the game or go outside the will say dad when can we go outside and I would say I don't know and then they would go on and tell me why they did bad that day.
#1 by Claire Z on June 3rd, 2009
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Ummm, my mom makes my brother (15) and I (13) cancell our weekend plans, spend the whole day together, or gives us extra chores that takes up our hanging out time.
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#2 by refaray on June 3rd, 2009
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There's a few that works for me my sons have a problem cleaning there room sometimes and I used to get frustrated but now is there room is not cleaned no tv,nooutside,no dinner until the room is done.When I would ask my kids why they did something wrong they would say I dont know but it's funny because when it's time to play the game or go outside the will say dad when can we go outside and I would say I don't know and then they would go on and tell me why they did bad that day.
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http://groups.yahoo.com/group/parentingadvise/
#3 by C W on June 3rd, 2009
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When my kids would fight or be mean to eachother, I would make them kiss and make up. THEY HATED IT!!! But in the end it would make them laugh.
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#4 by Christy C on June 3rd, 2009
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If they are old enough to play outside by themselves (are 10 and 13 the ages you're talking about?) And you get sick of them being a pain in the rear end inside, ground them outside. Don't let them in unless it's to use the bathroom. Of course, provide them with water to drink and a snack, but it will serve a dual purpose. Number one, it gets them away from the tv, computer, video games, phone, ect. and number two, it gets them into the fresh air where they have to be creative in figuring out how not to "die of boredom"
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My mom did it and my brother and I survived.
#5 by larechiga26 on June 3rd, 2009
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Have them decide each others punishment. For example: Washing the cars, cleaning windows, cleaning the garage, painting the fence… Then make them do both punishments together so that they learn to do things as a "team". One overseeing the others punishment like a guide/coach. The key is making them organizing the whole chore or process so that when it gets done it is done right the first time or they have to do it all over again until till it gets done right. Mom/Dad, is the ultimate approval so that there is no way around them covering each others tracks the job should be an A++. Mom/Dad should secretly supervise to see if they are doing it as a team, compromising, not arguing… or they start over.
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#6 by saving_grace_23 on June 3rd, 2009
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I know this may sound terrible but… LITERALLY stop talking to them. leave post its around the house to tell them when meal time is and other normal interactions. Children tend to be very self involved and self concerned. They will most likely team up to figure out what is up with you. Use that time to start a conversation about what you expect vs what they are entitled to.
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#7 by _Fishman_ on June 3rd, 2009
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I would recommend you take a look at The Total Transformation Program by James Lehman, MSW. It is a step-by-step, multi-media program designed to help parents manage challenging behaviors in children and teenagers.
The program uses cognitive learning theory and behavior management techniques to help children and adolescents change their behavior. Parents learn to teach their children how to solve social problems rather than respond to these problems with defiance, blaming, anger or abusive behavior. The Total Transformation focuses on changing thinking rather than changing feelings to achieve better behavior—an approach that differs from traditional insight-oriented therapy.
James Lehman addresses the full spectrum of behavior problems in children and teens: defiance, back talk, lying, disrespect, acting out in school, homework struggles, refusal to get out of bed or do chores, tantrums, cursing, substance abuse, lack of motivation and abusive behavior. He provides specific recommendations on how to handle each behavior, with guidance on what to do and what to say to the child.
Legacy Publishing Company presents the information on DVD and CD with an interactive workbook, in a user-friendly, practical format that is easy for parents to learn and apply.
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http://www.TheTotalTransformation.com
#8 by homeschoolmommaof2forjesus on June 3rd, 2009
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I read this book called "Creative Correction" by Lisa Welchel. She played "Blair" on that show, "The Facts of Life". Anyway, it's packed full of wonderful ideas and amazing encouragement. I would highly reccomend it! I refer back to it all the time. Good luck!
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