[...]How should Christians discipline their children? What does the Bible say? | Discipline[...]…

[...]How should Christians discipline their children? What does the Bible say? | Discipline[...]…

[...]How should Christians discipline their children? What does the Bible say? | Discipline[...]…

Spanking may work when our children are younger, but as they get older, we need to be impressed deeply with what the Word speaks to us regarding disciplining them.
Deut 6:6-7 shows us that it is by our example, that our children see something and can pattern themselves according to what they see.

"And these words, which I command you today, shall be upon YOUR HEARTS ( the parent’s hearts) And you shall impress them upon your children ( first we need to be impressed, then we impress these words upon our kids) and SPEAK about them when you SIT in your house, when you JOURNEY on the way, when you LIE DOWN and when you RISE UP."

How blessed my heart was to read these words because they span the whole course of our every day lives.

Discipling our kids means that we too are those that are disciplined by God. Exercising authority means that we know what it means to be UNDER authority. Its easy to tell our kids to listen to us, we are not invisible as God is, but do we take the disciplining from God?

When we are those in touch with the Lord, caring for Him and what is on His heart ( our children are on His heart) then we will be filled with genuine love for our kids and will be faithful, firm, loving, wise, compassionate and balanced in our dealings with them.

They do grow up, and what may have worked with them as they were younger may not work with them when they are older. My thought is, when they are young, we should not ask them to "reason "with us. They are children who need to be led.
Before Grace came, there was the LAW, and for us, it is the same for our kids. Before they too are able to receive the Lord, and be governed by Him inwardly, they need us to be the Law to them, as a school master, that will eventually lead them to grace. This is a dispensational principle in the word and I thank the Lord that He has shown this matter to us. We teach them to respect authority at home, school and at church. To be thankful for what they have. To be mannerly and respectful to others. And most of all, we point them to God.

Psalms 127: 3-5a shares…"Behold, children are the heritage of Jehovah. The fruit of the womb a reward. LIKE ARROWS IN THE HAND OF A MIGHTY MAN, So are the children of one’s youth. Blessed is the man Who fills his quiver full."

‘Like arrows in the hand of a mighty man"
Our disciplining and raising of our children is to POINT to DIRECT them to the Lord.

May we seek the God as the Eternal Father. By spending time with God one on one, He will infuse us with wisdom, patience, love, forebearence, longsuffering, gentleness, self control and all the rich attributes of God. We do not want our children to be lost to this satanic world. May our prayer give the Father much to work with. We can stand with Him in this way by being open to His speaking concering HIS HERITAGE.

Grace be with you sister
May the LOrd cover our kids.

YOur sis
sandy

Just some food for thought.

If you tell your child not to touch something that is poisonous, that they will get hurt or killed because of it and this child disobeys your order and goes ahead and handles this poison, even injesting some of it. At that point in time, do you spank that child for disobeying you or do you seek medical help right away to pump this poison out of the child?

On the one hand, we need to know from the Lord, when to discern when our children need to be spanked and when we need to administer a different kind of disciplining to them.

We are all sinners and will disobey, and God did not just leave us in our sin. ( injesting poison)… He took steps in Christ to deal with the poison that we took in.

Just some food for thought.
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Recovery Version bible

Prov. 22:15 Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child,
But the rod of correction will drive it far from him.

Prov. 23:13, 14
13 Do not withhold correction from a child,
For if you beat him with a rod he will not die.
14 You shall beat him with a rod,
And deliver his soul from hell.

Prov. 29:15 The rod and reproof give wisdom,
But a child left to himself brings shame to his mother.

I believe in spanking a child’s butt. But there’s a right way and a wrong way. Make sure the child understands why he/she is receiving a spanking. Always wait until you calm down before spanking. NEVER discipline a child in a fit of anger. I would always bare their little behinds, lay them over one knee and place my other leg over theirs, and hold their arms down with one arm/hand and wail away. I used my hand which you really shouldn’t do but I wanted to feel the pain as well so I knew when to stop. Afterward explain to them that you had to spank them because you were being obedient to God. And they need to be obedient to God as well. I would always love my children afterward and tell them I hated having to spank them but that I could not allow them to be disobedient. My heart always broke for them and often I would cry right along with them.

An excellent book on rearing children is "How to Shepard a Child’s Heart" by Tedd Tripp It takes Christian parents from the cradle to grown and guides them in every way. I highly recommend it.

Well, we know what the Bible teaches but our government will not allow us to discipline our children properly because many have abused their children and beaten them badly. I think this explains a lot of why there has been so much change in behavior in the children since the 40′s. Parents aren’t consistent with discipline or just don’t try to discipline their children anymore. We have children running around skipping school, carrying knives/guns even, being disrespectful to adults in general, completely lawless and that is exactly what the Bible teaches for this day and age.
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The New Open Bible Study Edition, NKJV

The Proverb reads, "Spare the rod, and spoil the child." Too many "Christians" interpret the "rod" as a "weapon" with which to punish or discipline a child. Yet, that’s not in accordance with the Proverb itself.

Back in those times, what was meant by the "rod" is a stick or pole that was used by shepherds to keep sheep inside the flock. It was never used to inflict pain. It was used merely to guide and keep sheep from running astray.

That too many have misinterpreted that Proverb as an endorsement for using a "whip," a "belt" or other means of inflicting violence upon a child is very unfortunate.
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Spare the rod and spoil the child.
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He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes. Proverbs 13:24

Foolishness [is] bound in the heart of a child; [but] the rod of correction shall drive it far from him. Proverbs 22:15

Withhold not correction from the child: for [if] thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die. Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell. Proverbs 23:13-14
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If a man have a stubborn and rebellious son, which will not obey the voice of his father, or the voice of his mother, and that, when they have chastened him, will not hearken unto them: Then shall his father and his mother lay hold on him, and bring him out unto the elders of his city, and unto the gate of his place; And they shall say unto the elders of his city, This our son is stubborn and rebellious, he will not obey our voice; he is a glutton, and a drunkard. And all the men of his city shall stone him with stones, that he die: so shalt thou put evil away from among you; and all Israel shall hear, and fear. — Deuteronomy 21:18-21

He that smiteth his father, or his mother, shall be surely put to death. — Exodus 21:15

He that curseth his father, or his mother, shall surely be put to death. — Exodus 21:17

Children who mock their parents will have their eyes plucked out by ravens and eaten by eagles.

The eye that mocketh at his father, and despiseth to obey his mother, the ravens of the valley shall pick it out, and the young eagles shall eat it. — Proverbs 30:17

Like Abraham, parents should be willing to kill their children for God.

And he said, Take now thy son, thine only son Isaac, whom thou lovest, and … offer him there for a burnt offering…. And Abraham stretched forth his hand, and took the knife to slay his son. — Genesis 22:2,10

Sometimes God kills children for misbehaving.

And he went up from thence unto Bethel: and as he was going up by the way, there came forth little children out of the city, and mocked him, and said unto him, Go up, thou bald head; go up, thou bald head. And he turned back, and looked on them, and cursed them in the name of the LORD. And there came forth two she bears out of the wood, and tare forty and two children of them. — 2 Kings 2:23-24
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Striking another human being to keep them in line, is ridiculous and only breeds fear.
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