I’m raising some little kids right now they’re a bit spoiled..then again I’m young too.
Well there’s no real hard and fast rules. I would say the most important thing is to be consistant. If you don’t let them do something one time, don’t let them do it ever! Also, don’t make empty threats. Give them one or two warnings depending on their ages and follow through with a punishment. Be fair, and make sure they know the rules and what’s expected of them. Try to be calm when you deal with wrong behaviour, and always tell them what you do want them to do, not just what you don’t want. Give them lots of praise and encouragement when you see them doing the right thing, and never give in to tears or tantrums! Punishments are really up to you, some people use time-outs, grounding, loss of privelages, etc. Just make sure the punishment fits the crime, and that the kids now what the consequences will be if they misbehave. I won’t advise you for or against spanking, that’s a very personal decision for parents (I’m not sure if they’re your children, or you’re looking after someone else’s?), that is your own judgement call. Good luck, I hope that helps!
#1 by shelbyroxhardcore on October 31st, 2009
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You stick to your standards if you say ‘One more time and you’ll sit in timeout’ you make them sit in timeout. I don’t know what your beliefs are but I believe in spanking, but only when it’s necesary… Like if they say a bad word, get physical, or disobey constantly. You need to show them who’s boss and who’s in charge. That’s the role of the parents in this world.
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#2 by Razzle Dazzle on October 31st, 2009
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Well you should take away their toys and don’t let them play with their friends or whatever. Depends on the situation. If they won’t eat dinner or something don’t let them play after dinner and make them go to bed. If it’s a bedtime problem then read them a story. hope I helped!! I have two lil brothers and i have to babysit sometimes . one is 7& one is almost 2.
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#3 by Kit-E-Kat on October 31st, 2009
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Well there’s no real hard and fast rules. I would say the most important thing is to be consistant. If you don’t let them do something one time, don’t let them do it ever! Also, don’t make empty threats. Give them one or two warnings depending on their ages and follow through with a punishment. Be fair, and make sure they know the rules and what’s expected of them. Try to be calm when you deal with wrong behaviour, and always tell them what you do want them to do, not just what you don’t want. Give them lots of praise and encouragement when you see them doing the right thing, and never give in to tears or tantrums! Punishments are really up to you, some people use time-outs, grounding, loss of privelages, etc. Just make sure the punishment fits the crime, and that the kids now what the consequences will be if they misbehave. I won’t advise you for or against spanking, that’s a very personal decision for parents (I’m not sure if they’re your children, or you’re looking after someone else’s?), that is your own judgement call. Good luck, I hope that helps!
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#4 by MountainChick on October 31st, 2009
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The best advice I can give you (that won’t take up an entire book) is to be consistant. If you don’t allow hitting, then don’t EVER allow hitting. If it’s not okay to talk back to you, then don’t EVER allow it. The second most important thing is to follow through with what you say. If you say no candy at the checkout, then don’t give in when they start to whine and cry.
If you’d like a little more help, try these books:
http://www.amazon.com/Discipline-Book-Better-Behaved-Child-Birth/dp/0316779032/ref=pd_bbs_5/002-9583929-9276843?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1184730792&sr=8-5
http://www.amazon.com/Parenting-Love-Logic-Updated-Expanded/dp/1576839540/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1/002-9583929-9276843?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1184730890&sr=8-1
http://www.amazon.com/Talk-Kids-Will-Listen-Child/dp/1853407054/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1/002-9583929-9276843?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1184730998&sr=1-1
Good luck!
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#5 by huskergo on October 31st, 2009
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It depends on their age??? for specific examples, but on the whole; children need structure. You need to make a short list of rules and consequences and follow it. Don’t threaten a punishment and not follow through with it, but don’t blurt out a punishment you are not willing or prepared to carry out. Also follow a general rule that you punish both at the same time. Don’t encourage tattle-telling. If they were both playing together and break a rule, punish both in the same manner. Follow up by talking to each one afterwards. Let them tell you why they got into trouble and how they can do something different to not cause a fight etc. As for the spoiled issue, you’ll need to toughen up and make sure that NO means NO.
These answers are very broad, but without specific details of how many children, what ages, and what issues are occuring, this was the best advise I could give you.
Hope this helps!!
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#6 by Te on October 31st, 2009
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Try quiet time. If they are behaving in a way you dont like, tell them what exactly it is they are doing that you dont like. Tell them if they continue they will have to sit in the corner and not speak for 5 mins, Then do it if they continue to behave like that. You need to start the 5 mins when they stop talking.
The flip side of that is you need to reward them with praise when they do good stuff too. Tell them what it was they did and how much you liked it.
This reinforces good behaviour and discourages bad. If the only time they have your attention is when they are naughty then it doesn’t matter what you do to punish them they wont learn any better.
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#7 by styree on October 31st, 2009
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DEAR MISS
SPANKING ON THERE LITTLE BOTTOMS WORK FROM
AGES (2-19) AND I AM NOT TALKING ABOUT CHILD
ABUSE ARE CHILD ENDANGERMENT OK YOU SHOULD
ALL KNOW ME BY NOW I CAN NOT SAY IT ENOUGH ON
HERE JUST USE OPEN HANDED AND AS THEY GET
OLDER STILL SPANK THERE BOTTOM OK
TAKE CARE
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#8 by tryingtohelp on October 31st, 2009
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Children are like sponges, they absorb their environment. If there is anger and yelling, hitting, lying, excess drinking, drugs, laziness, untidiness etc., they will copy those things. If there is self control, love, tenderness, orderliness, compassion, diligence and hard working they will copy those things too. We teach our children by example. Also children need us to show them the way, they may think that they know what’s best for them but we are older and have more experience in life, therefore it’s our moral duty to guide them, even if they hate it, we must out of love protect them by not giving in to their tantrums, if we know that what they want isn’t good for them. The Bible says "Let your word YES mean YES, and your NO mean NO". It is vital that we are consistant with what we say yes to, and what we say no to, then our children will always know under any circumstances the right or wrong thing to do. If we just do it sometimes they really don’t know whats right and wrong. Do not let your child become a manipulator by allowing them to get away with things in public or by giving in to bad behaviour. They soon learn that they can manipulate people by turning on the tears. ITS NOT ON!!! If we let them get away with this they will end up being disliked by others cause if they do it to you, they will do it to others. Be firm but kind, consistant, if need be punish them by taking away something that they like for a time. Or make them responsible for their actions. Never make a child feel unloved or worthless. Make them understand that it is the behaviour you do not like, not them. Always praise them for the good they do and reassure them of your love every day. Make time for them, play. sing, kiss, cuddle, pray, eat, talk to them. Its the hardest task on earth, but the most rewarding.
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#9 by kkoe on October 31st, 2009
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giving them choice and consequence be firm on it whatever method of consequence( as long as it is meaning-full) you choose be firm and never falter this will teach them to respect you and learn a lesson far beyond the one at hand
if you are planning a new regime have a family meeting and explain things have not been working and there’s a new sheriff in town and you are giving them fair warning Why because your the parent and you can
i hated to hear this when I was a child but say it often now that I am a parent " when you start paying bills, and running the house, you can make the rules" Ironically it really is just the way it is
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#10 by sweeteasybreeze on October 31st, 2009
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The main ingredient for raising kids is love.
Discipline can happen as long as the person is fallowing and practicing what he preaches. Then the child will take your words seriously.
Communicate and listen to them. Appreciate the little things that they do. Award their good behavior with praises and approval. Notice and seek out their good qualities. Pay attention to them. Love them. They will respond to love.
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#11 by phoebe on October 31st, 2009
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Discipline is the key. The more the better. I wasnt disciplined as much as I wish I was a a child and it has effected my adulthood. Once your child grow up they will appreicate the discipline they recieved as a child and will make better dicisions.
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#12 by ((((?SaLaFi?))))???? ??? ??? ?? on October 31st, 2009
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Teach them respect, manners, appreciativeness and to be honest. Discipline them like that. Thats the greatest discipline. Hitting isn’t the answer and it doesn’t solve anything.
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