I have a 5 year old kid with ADD and even though the teachers are encouraging me to take him to the specialist to get put on lethargic drugs, my friend is telling me that drugs aren’t necessary and firm discipline is all thats required to bring his attention back along with an improvement in his behavior.
If you have dealt with kids with ADD please give me some advice, will it be a ruler across the hands? I don’t want to abuse him, I just want him to pay attention and behave better in school.
A ruler across the hands is nothing… Honestly, I think people nowadays are way too soft! It’s a kid, just don’t beat him, but you can definitely give him a good spanking every now and then.
What my mother always did, and it worked, is to allow other adults to discipline your children. If I misbehaved, my mother would let other people discipline me. This definitely taught me to have respect for all my elders, and I learned that I have to listen to all adults, not just my mother.
You can also do time-outs, not rewarding him, punishing him, etc.
You have to also be careful with the ADD. I don’t know your child’s situation, but there are many kids who are diagnosed with ADD when they do not actually have it. Make sure a true professional handles your child’s case, don’t let a teacher diagnose the situation.
#1 by ?wili?h? momm? on November 17th, 2009
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Ruler across the hands?? Come on now. That’s pushing it too far and that is not right.
Behavior therapy can work wonders for children with ADD. They can learn to deal with their ADD impulses and how to control them. Medication is ok, but it’s not to be used long term. Only until the symptoms are under control and then you start taking them off of it in small doses throughout behavior therapy.
You can also look into a tutor to help him with one on one hands on learning. Most kids with ADD do better with hands on learning.
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#2 by Chris R on November 17th, 2009
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i’d say a good old beating. I was beat so i don’t really know any type of punishment.
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#3 by pinkpiggy on November 17th, 2009
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A ruler across the hands is nothing… Honestly, I think people nowadays are way too soft! It’s a kid, just don’t beat him, but you can definitely give him a good spanking every now and then.
What my mother always did, and it worked, is to allow other adults to discipline your children. If I misbehaved, my mother would let other people discipline me. This definitely taught me to have respect for all my elders, and I learned that I have to listen to all adults, not just my mother.
You can also do time-outs, not rewarding him, punishing him, etc.
You have to also be careful with the ADD. I don’t know your child’s situation, but there are many kids who are diagnosed with ADD when they do not actually have it. Make sure a true professional handles your child’s case, don’t let a teacher diagnose the situation.
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