We are using a time out bean bag and making him sit for about a minute or until he says he’s sorry for hitting, saying no no phrases, climbing, so on and so on. I’m just curious what other parents did/do or don’t do
No thumbs down from me. Everyone’s opinion is welcomed.
I hope you are prepared for a heated topic! To spank or not to spank is a very hot topic among parents! Personally, I have never and will never lay a hand on my child. She is three years old and I have never spanked or slapped her. I refuse to physically harm/hurt my child. With that said…
When she is doing something she is not supposed to, we try to remove her from the situation. Let’s say she is trying to climb on the table, I tell her that she is not allowed to be on the table. If she doesn’t listen, I tell her once more than ask her to come somewhere with me… whether it be to the laundry room, kitchen, etc.
We use time-outs when that doesn’t work. We sit her in the chair for 2-3 minutes. When she tries to get up, I pick her up and place her back in the chair WITHOUT saying a word. Sometimes, I’ll do this 3 or 4 times before she stops trying to get up. After the 2-3 minutes or sooner if I feel that she is calmed down and ready to listen and apologize, I tell her what she did wrong, why I do not want her to do that, and ask her for a hug and a sorry.
Don’t forget to thank her when she does listen. Positive praise is so important.
#1 by Det. John Kimbel on September 25th, 2009
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Spanking is the best way to go. Time-outs do nothing but fuel the rage that your child has. If you spank them, you show that you are in control. That is how I raise my kids, and its how I was raised
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#2 by Tracey on September 25th, 2009
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Timeouts never worked with my kids. I spanked them on their butts with an open hand.
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#3 by Liam is due on Halloween! on September 25th, 2009
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My daughter never responded to time out and I am not a spanker. So I used the loss of privilages idea. It worked really well and still does. If she does something she knows she should not do (hitting her brother, torturing the cats or dogs, biting, pushing, etc) she gets her TV privilages taken away for that afternoon. She is usually allowed to watch about an hour of TV after lunch and knows that if she does something mean, she doesn’t get to watch TV that day. If she does something mean later in the day, she is not allowed to play outside before bathtime. These are two of her favorite things and it really gets her when she can’t do them. If she does something that is not good but she wouldn’t really know it wasn’t good, we talk about why it was not nice and how if she does it again she will lose whatever privilage. We can also use the ‘feeding the dogs’ privilage, especially when she is mean to the animals. Her favorite thing to do before bed is fill the dogs and cats bowls for their dinner time. But we do use that privilage as one she can lose too.
My son responds well to time out. His is still in his playpen, since he has issues with staying in a chair or bean bag. Until he can be counted on to not try and get up every second, he will still go in his empty playpen. It is in the corner of the room, where he can not really see anything fun that is happening. He has to stay about a minute or two. Depending on what he did. And then if it was a hurt to his sister or another person, he has to say he is sorry for what he did (name it too). Every kid is different, so I find it was just about finding what works. My daughter is ten times better behaved, knowing she will lose her privilages if she doesn’t do what she knows is right.
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#4 by TheBigFGuy on September 25th, 2009
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A good crack on the ass will get their attention. You’ll need to talk to them (when they’ll old enough) to explain why you’re doing it, though.
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#5 by AO - Let's Go! on September 25th, 2009
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Timeouts, ignoring, spanking. Sometimes bad behavior is just to get attention. Don’t give them attention and that behavior stops (sometimes).
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#6 by mommymelissa on September 25th, 2009
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I hope you are prepared for a heated topic! To spank or not to spank is a very hot topic among parents! Personally, I have never and will never lay a hand on my child. She is three years old and I have never spanked or slapped her. I refuse to physically harm/hurt my child. With that said…
When she is doing something she is not supposed to, we try to remove her from the situation. Let’s say she is trying to climb on the table, I tell her that she is not allowed to be on the table. If she doesn’t listen, I tell her once more than ask her to come somewhere with me… whether it be to the laundry room, kitchen, etc.
We use time-outs when that doesn’t work. We sit her in the chair for 2-3 minutes. When she tries to get up, I pick her up and place her back in the chair WITHOUT saying a word. Sometimes, I’ll do this 3 or 4 times before she stops trying to get up. After the 2-3 minutes or sooner if I feel that she is calmed down and ready to listen and apologize, I tell her what she did wrong, why I do not want her to do that, and ask her for a hug and a sorry.
Don’t forget to thank her when she does listen. Positive praise is so important.
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#7 by `kiaralovesherbabies on September 25th, 2009
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I use time-outs, or having a heart-to-heart talk with her.
She’s 2, and just started doing time outs.
I plan on making her stop whatever she’s doing by giving her 3 chances,
1! 2! 3-time out
If she’s not sharing, I’ll take the toy. It’s better to have nothing to fight over then to fight over the toy.
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#8 by michelle-quads on the way- on September 25th, 2009
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We did a timeout corner, the reason being is that if we are out and about like at thier grandparents houses then we can disipline them thier aswell, at home the corner has a beanbag, but instead of saying go to the beanbag we say go to the corner, and then that way we can say go to the corner at a friends house or grandparents house.
what we do is give the girls a warning then after that warning if they do it again, we will bring them to the corner.then we kneel down and tell them why they are thier and for how long. then after the time limit we come back and ask them to say sorry if they dont then they stay again for longer.
at first we leave them thier for a minute of thier age then when we come back and we dont get a sorry, we leave him for 1minute before returning.
my girls rarely need to go on the time out corner.n ot boasting or anything but im just saying what we do is right for us. at first of corse they did get naughty in the start but when they realise that we will keep putting thwm on the corner when they are bad then they usally stop. we do though have to give them a warning every so often but then usally they start to behave.
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#9 by Stars Always Fall on September 25th, 2009
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We did time out on the fourth stair, he couldn’t see anything on the top or bottom. Our pediatrician recommended that for every year old he was that we put him in time out for one minute. 1 year old= 1 minute, 2 years old= 2 minutes ect..
it seemed to work out fine.
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