My son is constantly telling us to shut up if we are saying something he doesn’t want to hear or he is grumpy (he learned from older siblings) and he hits and scratches only me. He seems to be the most difficult with me. I am not sure what to do.
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#1 by teenyj on August 23rd, 2009
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watch supernanny.
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#2 by Ashley on August 23rd, 2009
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maybe he doesn’t see you as authoritative. punish him, make him understand that he can’t boss you around. get a naughty chair or something and make him sit in it.
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#3 by Allison's Mom on August 23rd, 2009
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You need to take a stand and spank him with a belt. At 2 he should know better than to scratch you.
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#4 by roox on August 23rd, 2009
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time out. time away from the action.
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#5 by lilmama on August 23rd, 2009
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woop his ass lol jus talk to him
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#6 by Killer Nandin on August 23rd, 2009
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Time out works. But be firm! Don’t give in!
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#7 by Worshipful Heart on August 23rd, 2009
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Get the book "To Train up a Child" by Michael and Debbi Pearl – in the meantime – look forthese specific behaviors in articles on their website -nogreaterjoy.org- you can also subscribe to their free magazine- their articles have been a tremendous help to me
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#8 by trouble_sum81 on August 23rd, 2009
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Give him a big hug when he is being mean and tell him that you love him and that it hurts you when he acts like that.
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#9 by laaaacy. on August 23rd, 2009
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Time outs are always effective.
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#10 by HyperDog on August 23rd, 2009
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First of all, DON’T hit him – it’s incredibly sad that anyone would recommend hurting a 2 year old in an attempt to _teach_ him something.
He needs consistent reaction in the form of a timeout and, after a cooling-off period, a lecture on how you need his help, and part of helping is to behave. And without fail, that needs to occur every time he misbehaves, even if it has to wait until you get home from running an errand with him.
Consequences don’t need to be painful, or harsh, especially at his age. Just making a change is often sufficient to get his attention. If he throws a tantrum, don’t give in, just sit next to him and put a hand on his shoulder, acknowledge his anger, and let him calm down.
In all cases, consequences should be Reasonable, Respectful and if possible, Related (the new "3-R’s" of teaching).
The best advice I can give is to enroll in a parenting course (both parents if they are involved with him). They have them tailored 2 or 3 different age groups from toddler to teen. It was the most valuable class my wife and I have ever taken.
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#11 by babygirl on August 23rd, 2009
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but him in the nottie chair..watch Jo Jo she is awesome!
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#12 by screeno on August 23rd, 2009
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U could try something called time out, this is where u find a suitable place for him to sit eg somewhere quiet and ask him to think about what he had done although he may be a little young at two. don’t shout at him keep your calm however hard it gets he is probably doing it to get a reaction out of you. if he doesn’t stop hitting and scratching when you ask him to, put him down somewhere safe where he cant harm himself and he cant get up to no good and walk out of the room for about 5 minits don’t tell him where you are going and don’t let him hear you where ever you are. this will probably get him thinking why have you done that but if he keeps on doing it stick to walking out of the room each time and i think he will soon realize that when he is doing this he is Not getting a reaction you are in fact leaving him on his own and explain to him when you return that you don’t like being hit and scratched and it makes you feel upset. explain how he makes you feel, tell him that you love him and you don’t like it when he is like this. i hope this helps.
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#13 by *Almost ready* on August 23rd, 2009
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Use the time-out method. Every single Supernanny show shows her time-out method so check it out!!! I tell you, I love her because she is the reason my 3 year old little girl is well behaved. I don’t know what I would have done without Jo-Jo Frost!!! My daughter even likes to watch some of the show and will say to me, "Mommy, that little girl/boy won’t listen to her/his mommy"! She even sees what bad behavior looks like now because of Jo-Jo! =)
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